Separated By Duty, United In Love
Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • For Christians, this book falls short on decent marriage advice.
  • Terrific!
  • Great for beginner military spouses
  • Another Excellent Guide
  • OUTSTANDING!
Separated By Duty, United In Love
Shellie Vandevoorde
Manufacturer: Citadel
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Binding: Paperback
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Customer Reviews:

1 out of 5 stars For Christians, this book falls short on decent marriage advice........2007-08-16

I bought this book because a friend of mine had it and mentioned how she loved it. Although the first chapter was decent, the rest of the book fell short of my hopeful expectations. She has no sources behind her advice so what you're getting is just a bunch of advice from random women with no other qualifications but military spouse. I never finished the book because I found more and more that her views about marriage were very different from mine. At one point she suggests that wives could send her hubby off to deployment with an adult magazine "to help their marriage." I don't agree with that and could not continue reading a book that supports what I do not. It seems like lousy marriage advice to me.

5 out of 5 stars Terrific!.......2007-08-15

If you're married and facing your first deployment, you should definitely read Separated by Duty and keep it on your shelf for reference. Shellie offers help and guidance with a warm and understanding tone. She's also compiled a thorough resource list of books and websites. Though I've been a military wife for 18 years, my husband and I still consulted one of the checklists in this book before he deployed to Afghanistan. Just goes to show you never stop learning in this military life!
Marna Krajeski, author of Household Baggage: The Moving Life of a Soldier's Wife

5 out of 5 stars Great for beginner military spouses.......2007-06-27

This is the first time I've had to deal with military or deployment issues. It's an extremely overwhelming situation to be in, but this book gave me a great deal of important "beginner Army wife" information I wanted, and a lot of things that never even occured to me.

5 out of 5 stars Another Excellent Guide.......2007-04-09

Great guide for anyone going through a deployment or who is going to be going through a deployment. Lots of helpful resources, anecdotes and advice for any woman who stands behind her servicemember whether she is a career woman, homemaker or stay at home mom. This is another excellent addition to my library of military reading material and is another of my goto guides.

5 out of 5 stars OUTSTANDING!.......2007-02-13

I absolutely loved the book! It is a book that you can't put down. It helps you know what to expect in the future and how to avoid the worst in every situation. It puts things into perspective from your partners stand point. VERY well written and VERY Entertaining! I would recommend it to anyone! I am new to the Marine life and its been SO helpful! Thanks again!
Dangerous Duty of Delight: The Glorified God and the Satisfied Soul (LifeChange Books)
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
  • Wordy but good
  • Duty redefined
  • Useful, perhaps, for the weak
  • A Word of Warning About Piper's Emphasis
  • Jesus is Not Safe!
Dangerous Duty of Delight: The Glorified God and the Satisfied Soul (LifeChange Books)
John Piper
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ASIN: 1576738833
Release Date: 2001-10-10

Book Description

This compact 96-page book, drawn from Piper's popular Desiring God, emphasizes the importance of strengthening our relationship with our Creator by enjoying Him and His creation. The author's now classic ideas are presented here in an accessible size that will allow readers to absorb and apply them quickly -- leading them to a dramatically different and joyful experience of their faith. Filled with biblical reasons for living a life of celebration, this life-changing read helps people discover not only why but how to delight more fully in the Lord.

Jesus is not safe, but He is satisfying!

Each of us has a restlessness, an inconsolable longing within. Some try to satisfy it with scenic vacations, creative accomplishments, huge cinematic productions, sexual exploits, sports extravaganzas, hallucinogenic drugs, ascetic rigors, managerial excellence, and more. Yet our longing remains. Why?

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Customer Reviews:

3 out of 5 stars Wordy but good.......2007-08-01

Could have been said in half the space, but it presents a good concept. Well worth reading.

5 out of 5 stars Duty redefined.......2007-03-15

"Dangerous Duty . . .", Piper's brief summary of his "Desiring God" is a perfect starting point for those wanting to share the doctrine of "delight in God" but fear those they want to share it with are not ready to wade into the depths of the fountain of truth flowing from the longer book. I highly recommend it, first, for Staff devotions, at all evangelical churches. Pastors, here is the motivation - if your staff and, by overflow, your flock grows healthy by chewing on the truth that delight in God's glory yields soul-saturating joy for those who delight, then you have the kind of maturity which grows the church and works you out of a job (because the sheep can care for other sheep, the sheep can evangelize and disciple, the sheep can teach, the sheep can lead other sheep) - which ought to be the goal of all pastors who develop their flocks to Christlikeness.

3 out of 5 stars Useful, perhaps, for the weak.......2005-12-16

This is short booklet that says we should follow God because it feels good and the alternative is nasty. There is nothing here about "death to self," putting off the old man, realizing that "I no longer live, but Christ lives in me," or any of the other staples of traditional Christian spirituality. It is self-centered, self-aggrandizing spirituality.

How on earth did John Piper ever become an evangelical superstar? I've read material from Piper and organizations of which he is a prominent member (e.g., The Council for Biblical Man and Womanhood) that are just plain moronic and flagrantly heretical. For example, an article on the CBMW web site called "God's Plan for Authority" says that God is glorified when everyone has a boss, but dishonored when people relate to each other as equals. As proof, he says that plants have authority over dirt! How did a sloppy thinker who openly flirts with fascist ideas become a great spiritual guru?

4 out of 5 stars A Word of Warning About Piper's Emphasis.......2005-06-21

This is a general comment on Piper's books. I deeply appreciate the work of John Piper--especially his emphasis on missions and on living God-centered, Christ-exalting lives of worship. And I am Augustinian, so I love Piper's theology and am thrilled that he has become so popular. But I do want to provide a warning. Piper's main emphasis is (and you'll read this over and over again) "God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied (or delighted) in Him." This is a biblical and wonderful proposition that Piper became aware of through the writings of Jonathan Edwards. And to Edwards, this was one small part of his theology.

But Piper has taken this idea, which he calls "Christian Hedonism," and built his whole life and ministry around it. The problem is that if you read enough Piper, you will begin to focus on the FEELING of being delighted in Christ, rather than on Christ Himself. And when your feelings don't match what you want them to be, you will become disheartened. (And let's face it, few of us have the emotional intensity of John Piper.) At that point, your feelings (of being delighted in God) become the object of your desires and, thus, an idol. Yes, they are feelings TOWARD God--but those feelings are NOT GOD. And when the focus of your life has become your emotions, it has deceptively become an idol.

I know Piper fights against this tendency. But I'm afraid he is often unsuccessful. The fact is, the Christian life is not going to be one of unending joy in God. Read the Psalms to see how often the psalmists cry out in agony and desperation and sadness to the Lord. Read Romans 7 to find out how tough and discouraging the Christian life can really be.

According to Piper, our happiness in God should be the driving motivation in our life. But when Christians are inevitably not overflowing with delight in God, then under Piper's framework, the only solution is to seek that feeling of joy rather than just do our duty. There are times when duty and obligation (which Piper hates) are the only motivations for the Christian to be obedient and live a life of faith. I agree wholeheartedly with Piper that delight in God is a much better motivation for the Christian than duty. But when that delight is not there, we still must be faithful and obedient, and we can't always wait on our feelings to drive us on toward the prize.

Read Piper's books. And enjoy his passionate and Christ-exalting preaching. But beware and repent when your emotions--rather than the Triune God Himself--become the focus of your life.

5 out of 5 stars Jesus is Not Safe!.......2003-06-18

from the back cover:

Jesus is Not Safe, but He is SATISFYING!

Each of us has a restlessness, an inconsolable longing within. Some try to satisfy it with scenic vacations, creative accomplishments, huge cinematic productions, sexual exploits, sports extravaganzas, hallucinogenic drugs, ascetic rigors, managerial excellence, and more.

Yet our longing remains.

Why?

John Piper turns your heart toward the one true Object of human desire - God.

He shows how fulfilling your duty to delight in Him can change your attitude toward worship, toward marriage, toward material goods, toward your very mission and purpose on earth! Join him on a journey from desperate desire to infinite delight!

'Our hearts are restless until they find their rest in Thee.' --Saint Augustine
For Love and Duty
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    For Love and Duty
    Maisie Mosco
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      5 out of 5 stars Texas.......2002-02-27

      I found this a very touching story of the complex dynamics and individual personalities of a loving Texas family in the military. When a man makes a decision to become a top officer in the military his whole family is also in the military and must behave admirably at all times. When you read this novel you come to understand that military life is difficult and also quite rewarding. This author has a gift for bringing her characters to life. I recommend this book to anyone who enjoys feeling as if they are part of the story.

      4 out of 5 stars descriptive writing down to the last detail of a time past.......1998-09-23

      Good reflective reading especially the womens role in marriage, family dynamics and denied hopes of a career in the 1940s,5os and 60s.
      Love & Duty
      Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
      • Love & Duty
      Love & Duty
      Ben Purcell , and Anne Purcell
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      5 out of 5 stars Love & Duty.......2002-10-18

      Bem and Anne have written a very moving account of their experiece - one that left me inspired and with wet eyes. It shows how faith and love can help us to endure whatever evils we are tested with in life. I have had the honor to meet them both in person this year while working with the documentary "In The Sahdow of The Blade". I was on our huey helicopter when Ben took his first ever ride on any helicopter, since being shot down in South Vietnam and taken prisoner by the VC and NVA. He is a man of great faith and love - and of course, courage! Anne is a lady of great courage herself and the love that they both show in person and in this book for each other, is inspiring. This book is one of the best I have ever read on POWs, love or on courage. I highly recommend it to all - and not just those who wish to read about the war. This book captures so much more of the spiritual side of life that it will be a great value to anyone who reads it.
      Divorce and Remarriage
      Average customer rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars
      • Did not receive book
      • A good start for those studying D&R
      • Enlightening and Helpful
      • I thank God this book was written!
      • Good to have it, but ....
      Divorce and Remarriage
      Guy Duty
      Manufacturer: Bethany House Publishers
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      Binding: Hardcover

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      ASIN: 0871230976

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      What Reviewers Are Saying ABOUT Divorce and Remarriage

      "The author gives a fresh analysis of the words of Scripture relevant to the subject of divorce and remarriage. This is a new approach in this field and can be most helpful to both minister and layman. I commend this book."

      Dr. Paul A. Meigs

      Baptist Sunday School Board Review

      "The author has given us a thorough study of this interesting subject which has produced so much confusion in the religious world. I found the book most interesting, and discovered that exhaustive research had been done. It does not concern the reader as to whether they agreed with the propositions which he himself makes, but it does give considerable insight into difficult questions and historical factors which brings the author to his conclusions. I feel that the publishers have given to us a book which will lend itself greatly to a continued study of this very interesting subject."

      C. Wesley Lovin

      The Wesleyan Methodist

      "This is one of the most thought-provoking books I have ever read on the subject. It marshalls much Scripture to present what the author believes to be the Christian view and certainly an unbiased mind must say that Mr. Duty has a case."

      David Otis Fuller, D.D.

      Wealthy Street Baptist Church

      Customer Reviews:

      1 out of 5 stars Did not receive book.......2005-09-15

      I never did receive this book. I emailed the seller but have not yet received a reply.

      4 out of 5 stars A good start for those studying D&R.......2003-08-20

      Guy Duty's book is a simple, somewhat inelegantly written book which supports the view that adultery and desertion break the marriage bond in a way that frees the innocent party to remarry. This is the first book that I ever read on the topic (the date of this review does not reflect when I first read the book) and it does an excellent job of bringing up many of the main issues in this debate.

      Chapter titles include but are not limited to:

      "Christ's Divorce Law in Matthew 5:32,"

      "Does 'Put Away' Mean Dissolution?"
      "'Except It Be For Fornication',"
      "Are Fornication Exceptions Genuine?" and
      "The Church Fathers' Views on Divorce and Remarriage."

      There are 14 chapters in all.

      Duty has clearly done some good, thorough research on this topic before writing it, and he is overall very comprehensive with good use of documentation throughout to support his position. The reason that I have given this book only four stars instead of five is that while I agree with his conclusions, I don't believe that he's gone far enough in showing that breaches in any of the four marriage vows becomes a ground for divorce, not simply adultry and desertion.

      For a much fuller understanding of this topic, I would recommend Dr. David Instone-Brewer's book "Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible: The Social and Literary Context" (Eerdmans, 2002), or for a much more brief look at the subject also by Instone-Brewer, see "Divorce and Remarriage in the Church: Biblical Solutions for Pastoral Realities" (Paternoster Press, 2003) available at Amazon.co.uk.

      5 out of 5 stars Enlightening and Helpful.......2003-06-05

      The author of this study believed for many years that there was no possibility of remarriage following divorce. His study of the Greek and his familiarity with the Greek text led him to change his mind eventually. He came to believe that the innocent party to a divorce could remarry. He sites scripture to prove his point. This is more than a study of the separation which divorce brings. It reaches out to discuss how to treat those who are divorced. Frequently they appear to be second class citizens in the congregation of the faithful. The study is illuminated with the authorýs pastoral concern for all who are involved. How are fellow church members to treat divorcees?
      Fourteen brief chapters are included in this study beginning with a statement of purpose. Christýs divorce law in Matthew 5:32 is discussed in the second chapter. The discussion continues with a study of the Jewish writing on divorcement. Does ýPut Awayý mean Dissolution? Chapters five and six discuss fornication. Chapter seven discusses Christýs divorce law as seen in Matthew 19:9. Chapters 8 and 9 look at the meaning of fornication. The meanings of Romans 7:1-4 is taken up in chapter 10. I Corinthians 7: 10-15 is the theme of chapter 11. Chapter 12 gives the views of the church fathers on marriage and divorce. Chapter 13 discusses replies to objections and chapter 14 provides a summary of the evidence. A good bibliography of older books relating to the subject is also provided.

      While this study was written some years go, it deserves attention as more and more churches are faced with divorces in their congregations. Both laymen and pastors will find the study enlightening and helpful

      5 out of 5 stars I thank God this book was written!.......2003-01-04

      Before my boyfriend and I even thought about getting married we were unsure if we ever could because he has been divorced and this would be my first marriage. We went over and over the Bible ever worried that we would see only what we wanted to see or pass over what we were seeking.
      Then our Pastor gave us this book.
      My husband and I have been married since 1999.

      2 out of 5 stars Good to have it, but ...........2002-04-26

      This book is jsut a compilation of quotations in order to prove his points. It is good to have it because I see a different point to view. However, I would not buy any book written by him next time. Although I understand his arguments and agree with some points in the book, the style of his writing is very poor. My former English teacher would give D to a term paper written in this manner. Just too many quoations. Why doesn't he write in his own words when he refers to somebody else?
      Common Sense Not Needed; Some Houghts About an Unappreciated Work Among Neglected People
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        Common Sense Not Needed; Some Houghts About an Unappreciated Work Among Neglected People

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        Desire & Duty at Oneida: Tirzah Miller's Intimate Memoir
        Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
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        Tirzah Miller Herrick , and Robert S. Fogarty
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        4 out of 5 stars Could this be real?!?.......2001-03-12

        Being from Oneida myself, I have always had a special interest in this subject. I found that the most helpful elements in this book were the introduction and the notes following the diary entries of Tirzah. Without reviewing these notes before hand, it might be difficult to understand who many of the people are that the diaries refer to, as well as many of the locations mentioned. It seems almost unreal when reading this memoir that such a colony ever existed, it seems almost impossible that such people could live these lives, and that John Noyes had so much control over every aspect of these people's lives. I very much enjoyed this book and believe that it is highly worth reading, more so people from this particular area.

        5 out of 5 stars An Insider's View of Oneida.......2001-01-04

        We can now read the memoir of a woman who lived in the famous Oneida community of the nineteenth century and did her best to live up to its principles. Tirzah Miller was born in 1843, and her unique memoir, published as _Desire and Duty at Oneida: Tirzah Miller's Intimate Memoir_, edited by Robert S. Fogarty (Indiana University Press), gives us a view of how some very strange sexual principles were practiced under Biblical inspiration. Miller's memoir was part of the Oneida archives, which were opened in 1993, and are fully printed here for the first time. There is useful editorial introduction and notes to prepare a reader for much of Miller's descriptions. Miller was the most important figure among the younger generation at Oneida, which had been founded by her uncle John N. Noyes, a prophet of "Perfectionism" which, among other things, entailed shared sexual relations in order to make jealousy impossible, and even planned breeding of humans to bring out the best traits in the young.

        Tirzah Miller was involved in this sort of breeding, and writes about her participation. Her memoir tells about her doubts about Noyes, doubts which were always soothed by prayer so that she continued within the community. She was Noyes's favorite sexual partner, but had longings for others, and acted on them. Among the difficulties this caused was that there must not be any sort of "special love" analogous to marriage. Miller writes quite a bit about how she has to avoid this, and about her quarrels with Noyes, and about her liaisons with other community members.

        Miller's memoir breaks off during the tumultuous end of the community. There had been raids on Oneida by ministers from the outside, shocked at its peculiar principles, but also Oneida was racked with internal dissention as members strove for more independence. Noyes declared that traditional Pauline marriage was now to be advised, and before the community broke up, Miller was able to abandon her worry that her love for the father of her third child was "too special;" she married him exclusively, and lived thereafter in apparent happiness. Her memoir is good reading to reveal a lively, thoughtful, and reverent woman, and throws welcome light on the innermost workings of a famous, failed social experiment.

        5 out of 5 stars Sizzling Civil War Era Memoir.......2000-06-14

        This was a fascinating glimpse into the Oneida community and an amazing find.

        Tirzah Miller is the niece (and lover) of community founder John Humphrey Noyes and has access to the real inner circle of community leadership. You follow her various lovers (the marriage had 200 members and they practiced a form of 'complex' marriage that left Tirzah with MANY suitors) and the trials and tribulations of her love life in intimate detail. There are curious omissions in the memoir (which Fogarty points out in his thorough introduction)-- she doesn't chronicle the birth of her first child George (the offspring of one of her other uncles, born without the sanction of marriage leader Noyes) nor the death of the father of George's father (George, Sr. dies before the baby is born). You are not sure whether this was an omission on Tirzah's part or an omission made by the descendents who released the memoir to the public (more likely it was the descedents given Tirzah's candid style). And there are several gaps in the journal where Tirzah was working on the community newsletter and stopped writing. These omissions frustrate the reader a little, but obviously there is nothing Fogarty can do about it, except speculate on the reasons behind the omissions in the introduction and provide missing background info which compensates somewhat.

        The material that Tirzah did choose to write about is both poignant and sensational! Not only was her uncle an avid promoter of incestuous relationships (he felt the devil was behind social mores prohibiting this), but she chronicles several other outlandish suggestions John Humphrey Noyes makes for improving the community sex life (like, live sex acts performed during the religious meetings- a plan he never actually implemented). But the real heart of the journal comes from her painful experiences falling in love with and losing the love of her life due to strict community criticism of 'special love' relationships. It is heart-breaking to see her turn her back on a man she loves, teach their child to revile him and public renounce him all for the sake of her uncle's rather un-natural influence over her.

        By the end of the book you feel as if you have been introduced to and become the intimate acquaintance of a remarkable historical figure. Tirzah's memoir is basically the story of a modern woman (she had a job, serial lovers, daycare, short hair and wore a unique trouser outfit) only, shockingly, she lived in the civil war era. A must read for feminist history enthusiasts!
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          Erotomania is the mental disorder of obsessive stalkersthe delusional belief that their victims are actually in love with them. This unique account by a psychiatrist who became the victim of her own patient provides a thorough examination of this often misunderstood disease. I Know You Really Love Me unfolds like a psychological thriller, as Dr. Orion first finds herself the subject of obsessive love and then unsuccessfully tries to free herself of her patient, a demanding, manipulative woman who doggedly follows Orion from state to state and continues to stalk her to this dayseven years and counting. The author honestly explores her own experience while also providing an overview of this mental illness, including:c fascinating case histories and personal accounts of other victims, including a woman rabbi, a priest, a doctor, a fashion designerc cases that led to murder, some of the victim, some of the stalkerc protective measures to deter a potential stalker or erotomanicc the need for adequate treatment and punishment of erotomanicsc information on anti-stalking laws and ways to strengthen themc organizations that assist victimsThe first book devoted entirely to erotomania, I Know You Really Love Me will be of interest to those in psychiatry and the medical profession, victims, and the public at large, well-acquainted with this disease (though probably not with its name) through chilling media reports of

          Customer Reviews:

          2 out of 5 stars Great subject; horrid writing........2007-08-04

          I bought and read this book when it first came out, and promptly returned it to the publisher for a refund. It was riddled with misspellings, poor syntax, and bad punctuation. If the physician-author wrote the book that way, shame on her. If the publisher hired someone to proofread and edit this book, they failed miserably: these were the errors I'd expect to see from a third-grader; not someone who purportedly has at least a four-year college degree.

          If you're curious about this phenomenon, there are other, better-written books to be had.

          5 out of 5 stars Not just frightening for women!.......2000-05-20

          As a male Sophomore in college reading this book I was thoroghly terrified! It is noted that this does not just happen to women, but to men as well. Many times after reading this book was I looking around my car before getting into it, just making sure Fran Nightingale wasn't lurking behind it! Genuinly frightening (moreso because its a true story) read for either gender!

          4 out of 5 stars A Must-Read for ALL young women. It can happen to anyone........1999-05-11

          This is the first real Pop-psych book that describes the Stalking Phenomenon in correct and accurate Mental Health language. This book was recommended to me by a City Prosecuter who felt it would help me understand why My Ex-boyfriend stalked me with the aid of his new wife (of all people!). Stalking is NOT just ex-boyfriends and Yes, women can become erotically obsessed with other women in a non-sexual manner OR, as in my case, they can be motivated to carry on an Erotomanic pursuit of a target whom their lover has been stalking which can resultin a whole new range of Stalking behavior. This particular book deals with a Patient stalking her Psychiatrist with whom she has become obsessed - a common subset of Erotomania. However, the book also attempts and manages to cover pretty well the basics of Erotomaniacally motivated Stalkings in general which makes it a valuable addition to anyone's Library. ANYONE can become a target and Young Women should read a book like this before they leave home or college to enter the workforce. Even that may not be soon enough since I know of a few cases where friends of mine have had their highschool and junior high aged daughters subjected to such behavior. Even so.. I feel it is fair to say this is an essential book for Young Women. Men of all ages should and can read this as well, but statisically, women are at a higher risk which is why I singled them out as a group.

          What really makes this book work is that the writer has been targetted herself which permits her to identify with her reader in a way that she could not if she were merely a Clinician attempting to describe this illness or a law enforcement official trying to describe how to deal with it via the Legal System. The sad facts are that your friends and family will usually NOT understand what you are going through and many people will wonder if perhaps you yourself have done something to set the erotomaniac off. Another sad fact is that going to the Law may cause an escalation in the Stalking and you may also be greeted with the preconceived notion again that the victim has done something to encourage the mentally ill Stalker. Since the author has lived with a longterm, dedicated Stalker, she is able to relate and describe the specific brand of terror you feel under the circumstances. If you have never, for example, lived peacefully and proserously for, oh, a year maybe 18 months only to look up one day and see your old Stalker smiling at you from across the street from your new home in a new town in a new State under an unlisted number without your name on the lease, you won't be able to speak to the audience for this book.

          Now that I have communicated her closeness to the subject let me say just this: The police generally don't understand Stalkers so if you are being Stalked, it is now YOUR job to learn to understand their behavior as best you can. This book and Gavin DeBecker's THE GIFT OF FEAR will give you a good start. Once you have these two under your belt, you will begin to see that there is no real effective system in place for dealing with Erotomania when it intrudes on your life in a criminal manner and therefore you must make some careful choices as to how to react or whether to react at all. In my own case, My longterm Stalker seeks attention to his and his wife's actions towards me. If I react by calling the police or filing reports of restraining order violations, they go into full steam ahead mode as opposed to when I choose not to react and they eventually get bored by my refusal to bat the tennis ball back into their court an they quiet down for a few months. I feel one of the best messages of this book is to give you, the reader, a Psychiatric portrait of this illness instead of the usual folk wisdom stuff we are fed by the daytime talk-shows, the local news and via hand-me down info from friends and family who have brushed up against Stalkings. This is a valuable book and tool in your own fight to arm yourself with info and preserve your own sanity by learning about that peculiar brand of metally ill person who has either already made you the most important thing in their life or might at some point in the future. Good luck. Be safe. Remember, you are your own best protector.

          5 out of 5 stars I must read this again!.......1997-08-12

          I applaude Dr. Orion's courage in writing this book. Her personal eight year experience with her stalker, police departments, and the court system has brought forth a book that is both informative and enjoyable to read. I only wish that I had this information 2 years ago. I hope that "I Know You Really Love Me" will be the stepping stone in increasing the awareness of how prevalent stalking is for the average human. I am very proud of you for writing this book.

          5 out of 5 stars AN EXCEPTIONAL JOURNEY INTO THE MIND & HEART.......1997-07-02

          This is a remarkable book. We have all spent the last decade reading about stalking in the newspaper and watching TV news reports which give a tiny snapshot of this topic. Dr. Orion has given us the whole portrait, with meticulous brush-strokes that coney every nuance and subtlety of a problem that is anything but subtle. The book opens with a sentence that sets the stage beautifully: "I am a psychiatrist who has been having a long-term love affair with a former patient -- in her mind, that is." From there, Orion never loses compassion for the woman who has stalked her for years. She tells of her journey through fear, through the courts, through the actions and comments of her psychiatric peers, through police stations, law offices, frightening encounters at her home and office, and ultimately, to the place she has reached: the place of knowing of stalking from the inside out, as a mental-health expert, as a woman, and as a target. She moves from victim to victor, and the reader is taken along through wonderful writing that conjures the truth about stalking better than any news report or TV movie could ever hope to. Thus, we get the best gift: a learning experience we can enjoy along the way
          I Know You Really Love Me: A Psychiatrist's Journal of Erotomania, Stalking, & Obsessive Love
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            I Know You Really Love Me: A Psychiatrist's Journal of Erotomania, Stalking, & Obsessive Love
            Doreen Orion
            Manufacturer: Diane Pub Co
            ProductGroup: Book
            Binding: Hardcover

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