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Helping Grieving People is a training manual for care providers who will provide support and counseling to those grieving death, illness, and other losses. The author addresses grief as it affects a variety of relationships and discusses different intervention and support strategies, always cognizant of individual and cultural differences in the expression and treatment of grief.
Jeffreys has established a practical approach to preparing trainee caregivers through three basic tracks: Heart, Head and Hand. The first step, Heart, calls for self discovery, freeing oneself of accumulated loss in order to focus all attention on the griever. Head emphasizes understanding the complex and dynamic phenomena of human grief. Hand stresses the caregiver's actual intervention, and speaks to the appropriate level of skill as well as the various methods of healing available. Following these three motifs, the handbook discusses the social and cultural contexts of grief as well as itspsychological constructs.
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Profound and moving advice for support workers.......2007-05-13
J. Shep Jeffreys writes from the depths of his personal experience of losing a child, but he also writes from the expertise of having worked as a psychotherapist with families who facing what he and his family have lived with.
Be prepared for what he calls "Cowbells" i.e. to re-experience your own losses as you read this book.
Be prepared for a wake up call to rise the highest standards of sensitivity and integrity in your work with people who are bereaved or who are facing death.
A Bible for Grief/ Yours and Theirs!.......2005-08-28
This book could easily be called a bible given the depth, breadth and soulfulness of its content. Dr. Jeffreys speaks of the need for the care provider to communicate from the head, hand and heart, and he does just that in this book. It is rare to find a text so full of relevant information, well organized, well presented, and at the same time nurturing the heart of the reader. This makes for an amazing experience. The care provider leaves this book with heightened empathy, with increased love of self and of fellow man, what a unique gift! I have been in practice over 25 years as a psychologist with a specialty in grief, loss, and trauma. I trained with the senior staff of Elizabeth Kubler Ross, MD and I find Dr. Jeffrey's book to be the most comprehensive writing I have ever encountered on this topic. I highly recommend it for everyone, the professional, the friend or family member and each individual, for we are all grieving people at some time , arn't we?
Most Comprehensive Book On Grieving On The Market Today........2005-02-18
This book is a gift to clinicians and lay people alike. As a counselor working with grieving families for fourteen years, it immediately gave me fresh insight and hands-on tools for working with the complexities of those who are grieving. Each situation for a respective client is unique. This book helped me to think outside the box, and to bring even greater depth to the healing process.
I also believe this book would be directly helpful to those who are personally grieving. It addresses one of the questions that my clients most often bring to sessions: "Is what I am experiencing normal?" This book is laid out in a highly readable and organized fashion. I have a full library of books on the subject, and this is the best one I have seen thus far.
5 stars--superior resource--a "must have".......2005-01-25
Dr. Jeffreys has written a highly readable, comprehensive book on grief. Not only does he cover grief from an academic viewpoint, he teaches us, the readers, how to "celebrate the dignity and authority of the grieving person" as an "exquisite witness." Helping Grieving People: When tears are not enough helps us to understand that all change contains loss and grief. This book contains personal stories and practical, easy to follow directions for coping with grief and/or helping another. Jeffreys teaches us how to integrate thinking, feeling, and doing. He makes distinctions between the usual (or expected grief process) and complicated grief. He includes exercises and case studies to clarify the material. The book is appropriate for grief counselors and lay people alike. Highly recommended.
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Not Enough Tears
Dave Wright
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We were all touched by the Vietnam War in some way. Veterans, their families, friends and a whole new generation still have unanswered questions about that turbulent time. "Not Enough Tears" lets you see the good and bad through the eyes of a young army draftee sent to fight for his nation. Duty and patriotic pride quickly degenerated into a fight for survival. Taking one of the most dangerous jobs in an infantry company, Dave came home with hardly a scratch. There were no odds to explain the supernatural protection he received. After two months, that covering extended to everyone around him when he walked point. Over time, that unbelievable "luck" turned into a curse as walking point and going home became vexing choices between life and death. Like most vets, Dave thought he buried the war after coming home. Surviving the horrors of Vietnam meant he could handle anything. Thirty years later his life was falling apart. He'd given up. Leaving his family seemed to be the only way to stop the pain. Learn the lessons in "Not Enough Tears" which can bring healing to tens of thousands who are still hurting and don't understand why.
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God's healing.......2006-08-30
Reviewed by David Peters for Reader Views (8/06)
Often called The War With No Purpose, the Vietnam War claimed many of our brave young men in ways than we can never imagine. Many of them survived the war only to come back to an ungrateful homeland, and continuing to fight a war that never ends, the war of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Most of us know someone suffering from this disorder, but they are too proud to show the fear in their eyes. It often gets the best of them at night, while the rest of the country is asleep. Dreams haunt them - walking through the jungles and rice paddies only to be ambushed, or hearing that often too familiar click of a bomb.
This is one man's tale of how God healed him through time. Under the encouragement of his wife, he began to write the stories that haunted him at night. Dave's healing has only begun with the writing of this profound book. I encourage anyone who has gone through any war, past or present, to read "Not Enough Tears." Take strength and courage in its words and begin to heal. "Not Enough Tears" is written from a Christian perspective, but people of any religion can equally gain from it.
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One Tear Is Not Enough
Michael Coatesworth
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When they first met in 1925, Martin Heidegger was a star of German intellectual life and Hannah Arendt was his earnest young student. What happened between them then will never be known, but both would cherish their brief intimacy for the rest of their lives.
The ravages of history would soon take them in quite different directions. After Hitler took power in Germany in 1933, Heidegger became rector of the university in Freiburg, delivering a notorious pro-Nazi address that has been the subject of considerable controversy. Arendt, a Jew, fled Germany the same year, heading first to Paris and then to New York. In the decades to come, Heidegger would be recognized as perhaps the most significant philosopher of the twentieth century, while Arendt would establish herself as a voice of conscience in a century of tyranny and war.
Illuminating, revealing, and tender throughout, this correspondence offers a glimpse into the inner lives of two major philosophers.
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The passionate and morally problematic love of two of the greatest thinkers of the century .......2006-11-30
This collection of letters is as one- sided as the relationship between Heidegger and Arendt was in certain respects. In this collection Heidegger is the one who speaks, over three - fourths of the one- hundred sixty- six letters are his. We do not have key documents, Arendt's early letters to Heidegger which were destroyed either by Heidegger himself or a member of his family.
The relationship in the first stage at Marburg in 1925 was of the great intellectual figure Heidegger, already a person of tremendous reputation, thirty- five married with children, and that of an eighteen old student worshipper. The illicit love affair was clearly passionate and deeply felt on both sides.
However in little more than a year there are signs that he does not mind her going out with a fellow student,and off to study somewhere else a sign perhaps of his being troubled that the affair exposed might cause harm to his reputation.
A second stage came with the rise of the Nazis to power , Arendt's exile, and Heidegger's becoming a collaborator with the Nazi regime. At this stage Arendt becomes disturbed about allegations of Heidegger's anti- Semitism.
The third stage came after a long hiatus in letter - writing. It was only after the war that there was a renewal of their relationship, though it is not clear that this was also a romantic renewal. For by this time Arendt was married to Heinrich Blucher. At this point Arendt played the role of advisor to Heidegger in helping him deal with the charges of collaboration with the Nazis. This chapter is not one which does Arendt credit. Her readiness to not simply excuse Heidegger for his revolting behavior, (including anti- Semitic remarks, dismissal of Jewish colleagues, a use of concepts of his own philosophy in a pro- Nazi speech, ) but to help him get off the hook reflects a loyalty void of all judgment. And this from the philosopher for whom 'judging' was a fundamental philosophical category.
Their post- war reconciliation was prompted and pushed by Heidegger's viciously anti- Semitic wife, Elfreide. Elfreide despised Arendt but understood that she could help Heidegger, and so encouraged the renewal of the relationship. Heidegger for his part never read Arendt's work and could not give her the kind of respect and esteem that she continued to give him.
Heidegger and Arendt are profound souls, and this is felt in the content and tone of these letters. They are people of high ideals and aspirations. They are two of the most significant thinkers of the twentieth century. Their story of love and friendship is a fascinating one. And whatever additional light is thrown on this relationship is eagerly seized upon by students of their work. Yet their relationship illicit at the outset , later became even more suspect as it worked to cover up Heidegger's immoral behavior. The dishonesty and evasiseness of Heidegger in dealing with the charges against him is all the more reprehensible as it is that of one whose fundamental enterprise is in striving for Truth.Arendt's excess of caring to protect Heidegger are in painful and troubling contrast with her insensitity to survivors of the Shoah, this of course in her famous 'banality of evil' analysis of the action of Eichmann. Her tone in ' Eichmann in Jerusalem' was contemptuous and superior, a tone she might too have learned from Heidegger. There are those who claim that the final phase of the Heidegger- Arendt relationship involved a reversal in which she was the powerful one and he the one more needing and enslaved. But these letters do not seem to bear this out. Her loyalty to him and love enabled her to continue serving him too well to the end of their days. She died in the latter half of 1976 and he only six months later.
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Some ontics.......2006-07-03
Most of the material in this correspondence between Martin Heidegger and Hannah Arendt shouldn't come as much of a surprise to most students who are familiar with these great thinkers's respective work. Although, there is surprisingly little discussion of the unfortunate political situation of Heidegger, I suppose the de-Nazification trials exhausted the subject. Still, this is a nice collection of letters; what unfolds are the painful vicissitudes of their affair, and the almost complete destruction of their (and their families) lives on account of WWII. What is a pleasure to read here, however, is Heidegger's casual remarks on his serious philosophical projects, it provides an excellent window into his craft. One reaction, though it hardly comes as a surprise: Heidegger was a terrible poet. For example:
"SONATA SONANS"
What rang rings.
It sinks
Into lament's unknown ware's
Sings into what no one dares,
What's formed from the wreath,
Takes place,
Gentle's love and woe
Into the Same.
Etc. Etc.
Perhaps the most problematic aspect of this collection is (at least for me), that it turns the reader into a creepy voyeur who peers into these personal love letters. Still, there is enough scholarly material contained within for scholars and students to make it a worthwhile collection.
Poetry and how personal histories matter.......2005-07-10
Everybody knows what two people in a situation like Hannah Arendt and Martin Heidegger in 1925, a female student and a married philosophy professor, shouldn't say to each other. With imaginary docudramas filling in the blanks of the lives of so many famous people in ways that fulfill the fantasies of millions of TV viewers, as well as the readers of historical novels, those who watch movies about Samson, and theologians who wonder what Adam and Eve ever saw in the forbidden fruit, it is a relief to be getting some actual documents from a famous romance. Heidegger's fame was growing rapidly at the beginning of this book, and Hannah Arendt was bound to become known for paying attention. The fiftieth item in this book, "Martin Heidegger for Hannah Arendt: Five Poems," ends with the short poems:
Correspondence
Godless is God
alone, and no
other thing--
death first
corresponds,
to the ring
of Being's poem,
the first.
DEATH
Death is, in the world's own rhyme,
Being's mountain chain.
Death will evade what's yours and mine
in the falling weight
falling toward silence's tor,
star of earth, nothing more.
For the friend's friend (pp. 63-64, prior to a letter dated Febr. 15, 1950).
Hannah Arendt responded in item 127, twenty years later, a few weeks after Heidegger sent her a poem about time, but trying to quote the earlier poem, from New York, on November 27, 1970:
Dear Martin,
For days, weeks, I have wanted to write to you, at least to tell you how much good your letter did me, your sympathy, the time poem as an aid to reflection. Together with the other from many, many years ago
Death is, in the world's design,
Being's mountain chain.
Death will evade what's yours and mine
In the falling weight.
Falling toward silence's tor,
Star of earth, nothing more. (p. 173).
British users of the English language might know that tor is a hill. Heinrich Blucher had died and a memorial service was held at Bard College on November 15. Like soldiers in a time of mounting casualties, people of different ages often have unsettled feelings about death because which will survive is not obvious. Hannah Arendt died in December, 1975, a few months before Heidegger's death in May, 1976. The `Romeo and Juliet' ending of fifty years of being German, Jewish, or American thinkers, bound together by an interest in the years that offered multiple lessons to be learned on both sides, makes this a bit more interesting to me than the other collections of Hannah Arendt's Letters with Karl Jaspers, Mary McCarthy, Hermann Broch, Kurt Blumenfeld, and Heinrich Blucher.
This book mentions Nietzsche or Heidegger's book about Nietzsche about a dozen times, but the interesting comments are in Hannah Arendt's tribute, "Martin Heidegger at eighty" on pages 148-162, and a brilliant short description of Heidegger as a fox in July 1953 which ends with:
But the fox living in the trap said proudly: So many fall into my trap; I have become the best of all foxes. And there was even something true in that: nobody knows the trap business better than he who has been sitting in a trap all his life. (p. 305).
Most of us could apply the trap business view to everything in life that requires our involvement. Longing for a few ideas, we can pick up a book like this as the inside and outside view of an intellectual trap. Lacking the ability to read this book all at once, I had bookmarks in several places for weeks at a time as my ability to comprehend was expanding to get a grip on what this book has to offer. The Index is helpful for those who have particular interests. Minor items like Beethoven's Piano Sonata No. 32 in C minor are not to be found in the Index, however much it might have been on Heidegger's mind when he wrote his letter of April 12, 1950, listing Beethoven, opus 111 Adagio, Conclusion as an addressee on page 74 and thanking Hannah for the opportunity to listen to it:
"And now, Hannah, you have, on top of everything, and with a loving word, also given me Beethoven's Opus 111. Its sound has already become kin to the light I mentioned at the beginning of this letter.
"Elfride returns your greeting and kiss with a happy heart and is glad you returned home safely. Say hello to your dear husband from me." (p. 76).
The index does not have an entry for Elfride Heidegger on page 76, but it did list page 74, where Heidegger wrote about "what is loving about love that cast its light into my room when Elfride and you embraced. We will need time to make what has become of us our own: That you came, that what grew close in us became the closest closeness; that Elfride was helpful with all of it, that our love needs her love; that everything, including your safe return home, is reflected, clarified, and validated in everything else."
I'm sure that Nietzsche wrote that a married philosopher, like Socrates, ought to be cast in some comedy, as Aristophanes did with Socrates in `The Clouds' in 423 B.C., a comedy which placed last in the competition with Cratinous and Ameipsias at the Great Dionysia in the month of March, 423 B.C. Fortunately, Aristophanes revised his comedy, so "The Clouds' that we have today, "as purely farcical as the presentation of the philosopher himself suspended in a basket betwixt heaven and earth" in the notes for the Rogers translation, might be much better than running through it the first time. Heidegger's opportunity in these LETTERS to get himself right all over again after five half decades had passed has a miraculous quality, to say the least.
Arendt and Heidegger in Letters.......2004-06-03
This collection of letters is an absolute necessity for anyone interested in Hannah Arendt, and particularly her relationship with the controversial German philosopher (and mentor) Martin Heidegger. The letters are well annotated and there is a helpful introduction as well. The only problem is that there are relatively few letters from Arendt. And those that appear in the collection are somewhat concise, whether from the editing or simply because they were not extensive. As a result, the reader does not get the intimate and expansive view into Arendt's thinking and activities that one comes away with from reading, for example, her collection of letters to and from Mary McCarthy. Of particular interest is the exchange of poetry between the two--somewhat ironic given Heidegger's controversial career and purported anti-Semitism during the Nazi period. One cannot help thinking, as the letters pass by, as to why Arendt chose to treat Heidegger with such kid gloves; nonetheless, there is a touching quality about this late-in-life correspondence of two former lovers. Quite pleasant and informative and not overly technical in philosophical terms.
Finally Available.......2004-03-19
Perhaps it's a sign of the times in which we live, but the biggest stories of recent note in philosophy have been Heidegger's flirtation with National Socialism and the revelation of his affair with his student, Hannah Arendt, in the 1920s. The affair with Arendt has left a bad account of the affair (Ettinger) and a badly written novel in its wake, but perhaps these lumps of fool's gold have led us to the real thing, for they helped persuade Heidegger's son, Herman, to open the private files of his famous father and release these letters to the public. These, along with the letters to Arendt that are extant, comprise a volume that belongs in the library of every serious student of Arendt and Heidegger. It provides a glimpse of the lives and thought of two intellectual giants and of how events led to their estrangement and shaky reconciliation.
The first part of the book comes across as a one-way conversation, as only Heidegger's letters to Arendt are extant. Obviously Heidegger was smart enough to destroy Arendt's letters lest they fall into the hands of Mrs. H. The tone of these early letters is that of a besotted adolescent. Heidegger sends her bad poetry and, in one letter, refers to her as his "little wood nymph." As these letters were meant to be strictly private, we cannot help but suffer the embarrassment of an unintentional voyeur. However, the section ends on an ominous note with a letter from Heidegger in 1933 answering Arendt's charges that he is anti-Semitic. This came shortly after the ascension of Hitler and makes us sad that Heidegger destroyed Arendt's letter making the charges.
The correspondence begins anew after the war and only because Arendt saw it in her heart to forgive her former mentor and in effect bury the hatchet. Heidegger seems most pleased and the letters lead to a personal reconciliation with Arendt visiting Heidegger and his wife in Germany. But all was not to remain quiet. Heidegger had confessed all to his wife, and took her willingness to see Arendt again as a sign all was back to normal, as it were. The letters he sends in 1950 give the impression that he is more than willing to resume their affair; to once again have his cake and eat it, too. But a sudden dispatch from Heidegger warns Arendt to cancel a postponed visit and not to write for a while. Seems Elfride Heidegger was not the willing accomplice her husband believed her to be.
But time heals all and the letters (and visits) resume. Heidegger is more interested in what he is doing and the American response than in what Arendt is doing. In one telling letter, he admits he has no idea of what she means by "radical evil." Another subject on which Arendt treads lightly is that of Karl Jaspers: Jaspers and Heidegger attempted a reconciliation after the war, but failed and each has bitterness toward the other with Arendt playing the diplomat in the middle, though in her letters with Jaspers there is no doubt about whose side she is on.
Another missed opportunity is the sudden death of Merleau-Ponty a few months before he was to meet Heidegger in Marburg. Arendt has a higher opinion of him than does Heidegger, although in a philosophical debate I'd place my money on Merleau-Ponty, whose forays into aesthetics, ontology and physics expose Heidegger as stuck in a neo-Kantian continuum.
All in all, this is the book students of these two intellectual giants have waited for, and I, for one was not disappointed in the least.
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Margaret Mead was famous for keeping in touch with a wide circle of friends as we see in this collection of wonderfully revealing correspondence from the field. Written over a period of half a century, these letters to friends, family, and colleagues detail her first fieldwork in Samoa and go on to record her now famous anthropological endeavors in mainland New Guinea, the Admiralty Islands, and Bali. Enhanced by photographs, these intelligent, vivid, frequently funny, and often poetic letters tell us much about Mead's passion for and understanding of preliterate cultures. But they are equally valuable as a fundamental text on the science -- and art -- of anthropology. This edition, prepared for the centennial of Mead's birth, features introductions by Jan Morris and Mead's daughter. Mary Catherine Bateson.
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Interesting.......2002-06-27
This book is a collection of letters written by Margaret Mead to friends and family while she was working in the field. The letters span her entire career, from 1925 until 1975, and are accompanied in every chapter by photos by and of Mead. I found the letters quite intriguing, both for what they said as well as for what they didn't say. Some of the letters provide travelogue-like details of what conditions were like at her research sites. Some tell us a little more of what she was really thinking about the people and cultures that she later wrote formal descriptions of. Some of the later letters are quite formal, more journal entries than personal letters.
I found some of the most interesting materials actually to be the short introductions that Mead wrote at the beginning of each chapter, where she glosses quickly over the enormous upheavals in her personal life. In chapter 1, she says goodbye to her "student husband, Luther Cressman." In the next chapter, she notes that she stopped in Auckland on her way to the Admiralty Islands to marry Reo Fortune before starting her 1928-29 research project in Manus. Then in chapter 5, she stops in Singapore to marry Gregory Bateson in preparation for their 1936-1939 project in Bali. Since I had only read Mead's professional writings before, the book's casual mentions of frequent successive marriages aroused some curiosity about her personal life. A quick Web search revealed quite a bit more, including a long-standing connection with Ruth Benedict (see for example "Margaret Mead and Ruth Benedict: The Kinship of Women" by Hilary Lapsley). If you are interested in the life and work of Margaret Mead, this book will give you some insight into Mead's own opinions of what she was observing that go beyond the objective descriptions found in her formal works.
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The II5 letters in this book were written by a woman whose life spanned the center of the twentieth century. Hers is a story of ordinary people - how they lived and loved and worked and died - during a period of extraordinary change. As Miss Edna's life unfolds, she is caught up in the abnormal rate of change that moved the world through the century. Her experiences move from slates to computers, from travel in buggies to airplanes, from homes with wood cook stoves to modern electric facilities. Read about the trials of The Great Depression, the tragedies of World War II, the horror of death by cancer. Feel the love of family and the value of friendships.
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Beginning in 1925, when as a young anthropologist of 23 she set off to do her first field work in Samoa, Margaret Mead has sent home to family and friends these letters from the field "to make a little more real for them: the exotic worlds that absorbed her. Now, in this complement to her best-selling memoir Blackberry Winter, Dr. Mead has brought together a slection of the letters she wrote from Samoa in 1925-26; from Pere Village, Manus,in the Admiralty Islands, in 1928-29; from the Arapesh, Mundugumor, and Tchambuli, New Guinea, in 1932-33; from Bali and the Iatmul, New Guinea, in 1936-39; from Manus again in 1953; and during brief field tips and field visits in the 60's and 70's to manus, several New Guinea sites, and Montserrat in the West Indies. Enhanced by more than 100 photographs, this collection is, as the author puts it,"a very personal record of what it has meant to be a practicing anthropologist over the last 50 years." Its readers share with Dr. Mead "the unique, but also cumulative, experience of immersing oneself in the ongoing life of another people,suspending for the time both ones beliefs and disbeliefs, and simultaneously attempting to understand mentally and physically this other version of reality."
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