Supreme Conflict: The Inside Story of the Struggle for Control of the United States Supreme Court
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Supreme Conflict: The Inside Story of the Struggle for Control of the United States Supreme Court
Jan Crawford Greenburg
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ASIN: 1594201013
Release Date: 2007-01-23

Amazon.com

With its closed chambers and formal language, the Supreme Court tends to deflect drama away from its vastly powerful proceedings. But its mysteries hold plenty of intrigue for anyone with the access to uncover them. In Supreme Conflict, Jan Crawford Greenburg has that access, and then some. With high-placed sourcing that would make Bob Woodward proud, she tells the story of the Court's recent decades and of the often-thwarted attempts by three conservative presidents to remake the Court in their image. Among the revelations are the surprising influence of the most-maligned justice, Clarence Thomas, and the political impact of personal relations among these nine very human colleagues-for-life. Written for everyday readers rather than legal scholars, her account sidesteps theoretical subtleties for a compelling story of the personalities who breathe life into our laws. --Tom Nissley

Crawford graduated from the University of Chicago Law School, and was a legal affairs reporter for the Chicago Tribune and Supreme Court correspondent for PBS's NewsHour before becoming the legal correspondent for ABC News. We had the chance to ask her a few questions about Supreme Conflict:

Questions for Jan Crawford Greenburg

Jan Crawford Greenburg Amazon.com: How hard was it to get the access to justices and clerks that you had for this book? Does the culture of the Court promote that kind of openness about their deliberations?

Jan Crawford Greenburg: Hard! And let me tell you it took some time--they weren't flinging open the doors of their chambers for the first few years I was covering the Court. It takes awhile to build relationships and trust, and I was fortunate enough to do that during the dozen years I've been covering the Supreme Court. As for openness, I think the culture of the Court instead promotes anonymity and privacy. The justices aren't like the people across the street in Congress, or down Pennsylvania Avenue in the White House. They don't hold press conferences or solicit media coverage of their views. They speak through their opinions. I was fortunate that they also chose to speak with me for this important book about the direction of the Supreme Court and its role in our lives.

Amazon.com: Harry Blackmun's notes must be a treasure chest for Court historians. Could you describe what you found there?

Greenburg: A treasure chest is an understatement. Harry Blackmun took extraordinarily detailed notes--almost breathtaking in their scope and level of detail. (He would even write down what lawyers were wearing when they'd appear in Court to argue a case.) He recorded the justices' comments during their private conferences--when they discuss cases--and he took down their votes. And he kept all the key memos and letters that the justices would send back and forth when they were discussing a case. It was a tremendous window into the Court's inner sanctum, during some of the most pivotal years for the institution.

Amazon.com: One of the biggest revelations of your book is your characterization of Clarence Thomas as far more influential, even in his first year on the Court, than he's usually given credit for. Could you describe what his role on the Court has been?

Greenburg: Clarence Thomas has been the most maligned justice in modern history--and also the most misunderstood and mischaracterized. I found conclusive evidence that far from being Antonin Scalia's intellectual understudy, Thomas has had a substantial role in shaping the direction of the Court--from his very first week on the bench. The early storyline on Thomas was that he was just following Scalia's direction, or as one columnist at the time wrote, "Thomas Walks in Scalia's Shoes." That is patently false, as the documents and notes in the Blackmun papers unquestionably show. If any justice was changing his vote to join the other that first year, it was Scalia joining Thomas, not the other way around. But his clear and forceful views affected the Court in unexpected ways. Although he shored up conservative positions, his opinions also caused moderate Justice Sandra Day O'Connor to back away and join the justices on the Left.

Amazon.com: Not every Supreme Court confirmation is a battle, even when the Senate and the President are from different parties. What separates the candidates who sail through from the ones who get put through the wringer?

Greenburg: The recent appointment of Samuel Alito shows a justice with a clearly conservative record can get confirmed--and even pick up some votes from Democrats. Maybe the secret is developing a reputation as a fair and nonpartisan judge on a federal appeals court. At his hearings, liberal and conservative judges who had worked with him on the appeals court testified in his behalf, as did his law clerks--some of whom were self-identified liberals. Alito was the conservative counterpart to Clinton nominee Ruth Bader Ginsburg. She had been an outspoken advocate for liberal causes (including the ACLU), but she'd developed a reputation as a fair and thoughtful judge on the federal appeals court, garnering respect from both sides.

Amazon.com: How much do Americans know about how their federal courts work? What should they know?

Greenburg: Most Americans, understandably, think about trials and drama when the issue of the courts is raised. But the appeals courts--and the Supreme Court--remain mysterious, even though those courts have an enormous impact on American life. The judiciary is one of the three branches of government, but its decisions take on outsized importance at times. It can provide a vital check against abuse of individual rights by government--but it also can usurp the role of the people when it reaches out and takes on issues that more appropriately belong in the purview of the other branches.

Amazon.com: Even though you show how our expectations for where new members will take the Court are so often wrong, I'll ask you anyway: What do you expect in the next few years from the Roberts Court?

Greenburg: To be more conservative than the one led by Chief Justice William Rehnquist. John Roberts himself is a solid judicial conservative who believes the Court has too often taken on issues that belong in the realm of elected legislatures. He is advocating a more restrained approach, with greater consensus among the justices. In addition, Justice Alito replaced key swing-voter Sandra Day O'Connor, the Court's first female justice. O'Connor's vote often carried the day on the closely divided Court--and she typically sided with liberals on social issues like abortion, affirmative action, and religion. Alito is more conservative, and I expect to see the Court turn to the right on those and other issues.

Book Description

Drawing on unprecedented access to the Supreme Court justices and their inner circles, acclaimed ABC News legal correspondent Jan Crawford Greenburg offers an explosive, newsbreaking account of one of the most momentous political watersheds in recent American history.

Over the past decade, the central front of America's bitter culture wars has been the titanic battle over the composition and direction of the United States Supreme Court. During that period, no journalist has been closer to the action on the ground-the ideas, the politics, the personalities, the gamesmanship-than ABC News correspondent Jan Crawford Greenburg. Now, in Supreme Conflict, Greenburg draws on all of her formidable reportorial resources to give a brilliant, vivid, astonishingly unvarnished account of the struggle for the soul of the highest court in the land.

Greenburg picks up the plot with the Rehnquist Court, which, despite having seven Republican nominees, proved deeply disappointing to conservatives hoping to reverse decades of progressive rulings on key social issues. She reveals for the first time the real story behind a series of failed Republican nominations that enraged the American conservative movement and left it seething with frustration and resolve not to squander future opportunities. Enter: George W. Bush and the setting of the stage for a full-blown conservative counterrevolution. Supreme Conflict contains entirely fresh perspectives across the entire sweep of its story, from the conservative movement's early fumbles with the nominations of justices Anthony Kennedy and David Souter to its crowning successes with the appointments of justices Roberts and Alito. The book breaks news in its revelations about the effect of Chief Justice Rehnquist's illness on the process; on the truth behind Harriet Miers's disastrous nomination and how it was really scuttled; and on how decades of bruising battles led to the triumph of the conservative agenda with the appointment of two of its leading judicial exponents. Through the entire dramatic story, rich in character and conflict, Greenburg never loses sight of the gargantuan stakes in this struggle, the opposing ideological agendas at play.

The story Jan Crawford Greenburg tells is that of the fulcrum event of our time, the massive coordinated campaign to move the Supreme Court in a very different direction, to a more limited and restrictive role in American government. A masterpiece of old-fashioned gumshoe reportage, rich storytelling, and penetrating analysis, Supreme Conflict will be the definitive account of the most consequential shift in the use of American judicial power in almost one hundred years.

Customer Reviews:

3 out of 5 stars Tunnel Vision..........2007-10-14

Jan Greenburg does a good job of reporting the facts around the recent Supreme Court nominations but she avoids any challenge to the narrow views of those that controlled the conservative nominations.

The notion that Justice Kennedy is not a "true conservative" --never questioned by Greenburg---because 20% of his votes are not "in-line" is a bit absurd. It might have been worthwhile for Greenburg to consider what the true conservative position on Roe vs. Wade (one of Kennedy's "liberal" votes) might be. True conservatives value stare decisis and respect the fact that after thirty years many--the majority of the nation in fact-- now view Roe as a resolved matter. Several subsquent opinions, including Casey, affirmed its findings by using it as a precedent. Imagine if the court overturned it and then ten years from now a court with several Hillary Clinton appointees re-affirmed it. The Court would have been shown to be the mere pawn of the political powers that be. It would emerge less respected and less able to do its job. So, what's the true conservative position on Roe vs. Wade?

The reality that Greenburg never considers is that the White House values Scalia and Thomas not for their true conservativism, but for their right wing judicial activism. Greenburg never scrutinizes Justice Scalia's devotion to "original intent" when it goes against the outcome that he desires. She might want to glance at Gonzalez vs. Oregon, where Scalia's dissent claimed that the Justice Dept could block implementation of an assisted suicide act duly enacted by the popular will in a state initiative. So, where is the prohibition of assisted suicide in the Constitution? What happened to the great "Federalist"? The Drug Enforcement Act--the supposed basis of Scalia's decision--was not intended to outlaw or otherwise regulate assisted suicide and was enacted without any consideration of the subject. The Gonzalez v Oregon dissent (joined by Thomas and the new Chief) shows the bald faced hypocrisy of Scalia's "strict constructionism." Some questioning of "conservative" assumptions and a broader perspective would have made this a much more thoughtful and worthwhile book.

2 out of 5 stars A terrible disappointment..........2007-10-08

I thought, considering the book's title and that this reporter touted her access to nine justices, that this would detail the inner dynamics and interpersonal relationships of the justices and their clerks, like The Brethren. Instead, it was a laborious and too-detailed factual account of process the Executive and Legislative Branches used to select this court.

I see strong bias on the part of the author, who as a reporter, hopes to keep "inside access." She veritably fawns over Alito, in an effort to ingratiate herself with him and his family while, in contrast, she trashes the reclusive Souter, and the presumably uncooperative Kennedy.

Only 20% of this book was worthwhile reading.

5 out of 5 stars In A Class By Itself.......2007-09-30

In all respects -- writing, research, organization, balance -- this is the best book on the Supreme Court. To be sure, there'll be other (and perhaps better) books written on this always fascinating institution. For now, however, it positively towers over its competition. I've read (and enjoyed) them all -- Woodward/Armstrong's, Toobin's, Rosen's -- but Jan Crawford Greenburg's "Supreme Conflict" is, to reiterate my title, in a class by itself.

Highly recommended.

4 out of 5 stars Decent book for non-lawyers.......2007-09-27

Most legal reporting in the mainstream media stinks. Either non-lawyers miss the point of cases, or lawyers fail to translate that point to a level where the average person can understand. "Supreme Conflict" is an exception. This book focuses more on the personalities and dynamics of the justices, and on the nomination and selection process, than on particular cases. The tales of how certain people are selected for the Court, and how they mesh with the other justices once they have arrived, are interesting glimpses into a world rarely seen by outsiders. Some reviewers point out, rightly, that "Supreme Conflict" does not hash out particular cases in detail. But that's not the kind of book this is.

Other reviewers contend "Supreme Conflict" is too sympathetic to the right. That leaves me scratching my head, given the account of how Bush Jr. picked Harriet Miers as a nominee. True to form, Bush Jr. got some kind of gut feeling and couldn't be talked out of it by reason, and you see what that got him. We also see the mechanism of how the great right-wing spin machine is deployed for, or against, particular nominees. None of this is particularly flattering for Republicans.

This is a good companion to "The Brethren," by Bob Woodward, a similarly-good popular level book about the Supreme Court of an earlier era. Most libraries will have this book, and it is worth checking out if you're interested in the Supreme Court but not so interested as to add "Supreme Conflict" to your permanent collection.

5 out of 5 stars Fascinating.......2007-09-06

Do not start reading this book if you have to go to work or to school the next day. I read it in two evenings because it was so interesting.

Greenburg is to be congratulated for getting interviews with so many of the judges and for doing so much research and confirmation. The interest builds, and the final chapters on the Roberts, Miers, and Alito nominations are riveting, even though we know the final outcome. But what we didn't know is all the behind the scenes work.

I think Greenburg was fair to the justices and to those in the White House involved in the nomination process. She tells what they did well and what they did poorly. And some of the mistakes were monumental (Bush believing Sununu when he said that Souter was a conservative, for instance). Just from reading the book, it would be difficult to guess Greenburg's own political leanings.

Many things are surprising in this book. Justice O'Connor did not really know much about constitutional law when nominated. Clarence Thomas influenced Scalia's vote more than vice-versa during the first term. And liberal Democrats, more than anyone else, are responsible for Roberts and especially Alito, two conservative white males, being on the court.
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy
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Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy
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Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is the answer to this universal wish. It is not about gentle ways to control a child, but about a way of being and of understanding a child so she/he can be the best of herself, not because she fears you, but because she wants to, of her own free will.

"Aldort's book should be on the must read list of all Moms and Dads. This book could carry a subtitle: "Saving the Emotional Lives of Our Children and The Future of Humanity.""

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"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves operates on the radical premise that neither child nor parent must dominate; it is for those who want to give up scolding, threatening and punishing. Her SALVE "formula" alone is worth the price of the book." - Peggy O'Mara Editor and Publisher of Mothering

"Every once in awhile, a writer comes along who is comfortable speaking the truth, no matter how much it might challenge us or make us uncomfortable. Naomi Aldort is one of those people. In Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, Naomi Aldort takes the struggle out of parenting and replaces controlling and shaping style of parenting with one that values, trusts and nurtures children's innate abilities and autonomy."

- Wendy Priesnitz Editor of Life Learning magazine, author of School Free and Challenging Assumptions in Education

"In this stunning insight into human nature, Naomi Aldort opens a window into harmonious family living. This book should to be widely read and not just by parents but by every being who strives for a more peaceful world."

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Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Children are not the problem.......2007-10-17

This is a wonderful book and one of my favorite parenting books, along with Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting and Lawrence Cohen's Playful Parenting. The best thing I got out of it is an increased awareness for the knee jerk reactions we sometimes have to children's behavior. Behind it are often fears: I'm afraid they don't respect me. I'm afraid they don't know how to behave. I'm afraid everybody will hate them. Once you move past the knee jerk and into curiosity you can act loving, supportive, and authentic. Only if we treat children with genuine respect can we expect the same from them. Work on yourself, Naomi's message is, and look at parenting as a wonderful path of self-realization.

5 out of 5 stars I'm buying it for every parent I know.......2007-09-10

I recently read "Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves"
and I have to say that it is an amazing book and one that has created a
fundamental shift in how I approach my relationship with my children. I
have always been an advocate for gentle and respectful parenting, but this
book has offered me "mental" tools to examine my own internal world and
reactions to my children, and frankly, my spouse. I've passed it along to
several friends and they feel the same.

4 out of 5 stars Like any other good parenting book..........2007-08-31

...you take what is reasonable for you and your family and discard the stuff that is not. It flows along the lines of attachment parenting, Easy to Love; Difficult to Discipline type of thinking. I found many parts useful and enlightening AND there were parts where I found myself thinking "do what??" So, as with everything else; use it as a guideline, not a bible.

5 out of 5 stars If I recommended only one parenting book...........2007-04-13

This book is wonderful! Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. I want to recommend this to every parent I know, and some who aren't.

It is validating not only what I've been doing as a parent, but also what I secretly want to be doing, but am not sure about. I also struggle at times with compromising my commitment to my child to avoid losing approval from my parents. I feel totally clear now about not making that trade-off ever again.

And it's validating so, so many experiences and feelings I had as a child... Helping me have huge clarity around what I need for my healing process as an adult (just reading has felt immensely healing), and clarity around how to better respect and honor my husband in our marriage

This is EXACTLY the information I was looking for.

Thank you so much, Naomi Aldort

5 out of 5 stars Excellent Book.......2007-03-08

Very good book with focus on communication and relationship which nurturing child personality and dignity. Almost al "theoretical" explanations are provided with some examples. The underlined logic present in explanations are so acceptable.

I'm indeed interested in Montessori education. On some Montessori forum recommended this book. It's really very, very god book!
Divided America: The Ferocious Power Struggle in American Politics
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Divided America: The Ferocious Power Struggle in American Politics
Earl Black , and Merle Black
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Divided America tells the biggest story in American politics today. It's the story behind the emergence of a ferocious power struggle between conservative Republicans and liberal Democrats that is tearing the country's politics apart.

Drawing on extensive polling data and close analyses of presidential, senatorial, and congressional elections over the past fifty years, two eminent political scientists show, for the first time, how partisan warfare has reduced both major parties to minority status and locked them into fierce power struggles in each election cycle, thereby making America less stable and more difficult to govern.

Because the two major parties are now evenly balanced in the national electorate, control of the White House and Congress can shift dramatically with each election. Neither Republicans nor Democrats operate with any "lock" on the presidency, House of Representatives, or Senate, as demonstrated by the 2006 congressional elections.

Earl Black and Merle Black examine the party battles as they've played themselves out in the nation's five principal geographic areas. Each party has developed two important regional strongholds, as exemplified in the 2004 elections, when Republicans won all the electoral votes and sizable majorities of House and Senate seats in the South and Mountain/Plains states while the Democrats won almost all the electoral votes and large majorities in the Northeast and the Pacific Rim states. The Midwest is the perennial swing region.

The authors describe the enormous changes that have occurred in the electorates of each region over the past fifty years -- with emphasis on how the size and partisan affiliations of key groups have changed -- and show how these transformations have generated today's unstable two-party battles. Although the relentlessly competitive nature of modern American politics is generally appreciated, the regional causes underlying this new state of affairs are not well understood. Because neither Democrats nor Republicans can produce national majorities simply by sweeping their regional strongholds, they are locked in a fierce power struggle in each election. Divided America tells the story of these remarkable developments in clear, vigorous prose and provides a pragmatic understanding of the strengths and weaknesses of each party.

For the foreseeable future, each party will be within striking distance of winning -- or losing -- political power in every national institution. Understanding the party battles in America's regions is vital to understanding how today's losers can become tomorrow's winners

Customer Reviews:

4 out of 5 stars Stats freaks, you know who you are, take a personal day, crunch on........2007-04-15

Politics in the U.S. for the past several decades has had the flavor of a pendulum; a slow oscillation driven mostly by indifferent people voicing their disgust with alternate messages. That model has been soundly retired. There are millions of voters, thousands of polling places, hundreds of districts and anyone with a basic knowledge of a spreadsheet program can keep a finger on trends and patterns to a greater extent than the highest paid consultants of just a dozen years ago. The Blacks speak this language; the controlled variable graph cluster.
They divide the country into the South, the Northeast, the Pacific Coast and the Midwest. They examine race, gender, religious affiliation and ethnicity. The patterns they show are stark. The campaigns will know well where to spend their money or they will fail.
The issues have not lost their importance. But the well-staffed candidate will no longer waste a dime of ad money in the wrong districts. Certain places, certain populations present opportunity. The rest of us will just have to see if we can surprise these hired guns and their finely tuned predictions.
Many will complain that the populist notions of participatory democracy have fallen by the wayside; that Tommy Jefferson is spinning in his grave. But it bears pointing out that "participatory" derives from an active verb. Voter turnouts for TV reality shows tower over those of even general elections. Are people truly disaffected with the political experience or just bored? If they are disappointed with the entertainment value of being asked to overthrow their government every November, they'll get no sympathy from candidates and their consultants as they apply the strategies implied by "Divided America."
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3 out of 5 stars The poor authors.......2007-04-10

They had a great idea for a book on politics beyond the Reign of W, spending the past couple of years assiduously putting together a slew of statistics to back up their professional analysis of current American politics.
Then Karl Rove's brilliant strategy imploded, and the electorate turned on the administration, pretty well across the board, though with some demographics more strongly than others. So ... it's tough to extrapolate the pre-implosion data (pre-2004) to 2008 and beyond.
The book went to press after the 2006 elections, and the authors do mention the results in the Foreward. However, I'm deducting two stars: one because it reads like a college statistics thesis in large part, and another because the data is (to some extent, debateable how much) not relevant for the next political cycle.
Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime
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  • Great book
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Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime
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Amazon.com

Kids, parents, and power struggles--the inseparable triad of family life. What if you could avoid Machiavellian peacekeeping maneuverings and instead turn difficult situations with your child into jumping-off points to having a better and more productive relationship? Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's new book gives a concise, practical, and often humorous account of how to achieve this turnaround. Kurcinka doesn't promise miracle cures or overnight success, but by building on Daniel Goleman's groundbreaking work in Emotional Intelligence, she offers creative techniques for using power struggles as pathways to better understanding within any family. Drawing on her clinical experience with numerous real-life families, Kurcinka builds up an image of the parent as an "emotion coach," whose role is to build a strong, connected "team" by understanding the players' strengths and weaknesses and showing by instruction and example how best to play the game. The techniques she outlines are useful for children of any age--in fact, the younger, the better--and are based on firm guidelines and mutual respect. In sections such as "Bringing Down the Intensity," "Enforcing Your Standards," and "Teaching Life's Essential Skills," Kurcinka addresses the causes of power struggles rather than just the symptoms, so that families can reduce the pain of repeated conflict. By the end of the book, any parent should feel confident in applying the principles. --Katherine Ferguson

Book Description

End Those Power Struggles and Begin Connecting with Your Child

Noted family educator Mary Sheedy Kurcinka struck a national chord with her bestselling Raising Your Spirited Child. Now she hits upon another crucial parenting topic: coping with the everyday challenges of disciplining your child, while understanding the issues behind his or her behavior. In Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, she offers unique approaches to solving the daily, and often draining, power struggles between you and your child. Kurcinka views these conflicts as rich opportunities to teach your child essential life skills, like how to deal with strong emotions and problem solve. With her successful strategies, you'll be able to identify the trigger situations that set off these struggles and get to the root of the emotions and needs of you and your child.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Great book.......2007-08-13

What I liked most about this book is that I felt like you could read one chapter, work on some things then read the next. I don't have time to sit down & read a whole book but a chapter or 2 per week works for me.

It really makes a lot of sense that your children have so many different emotions but don't know how to express them. I read this at the same time as siblings without rivalry and they really complemented each other.

5 out of 5 stars great advice for parents.......2006-11-10

This is a very helpful, practical, easy to use and understand guide for how to see things from a different perspective when it comes to dealing with your children. Eminently and infinitely helpful...highly recommended!

5 out of 5 stars Great book for parents who want some guidance.......2006-08-22

I haven't completely finished this book, but love it. It offers wonderful advice on how to work with and connect with your child vs. fighting with them. The chapter on temperment has been an eye-opener for me. I better understand why my daughter and I often have struggles and now have the ability to create strategies to avoid those struggles. I highly recommend this book. It's hard to find the time to read when you're a busy parent, but make time for this one.

5 out of 5 stars A constant companion.......2006-06-30

This book stays in my backpack -- like diapers and wipes, I never know when I might need it.

5 out of 5 stars Very pleased with book!.......2006-03-03

This book is the type that you don't want to put down once you start reading it. I am learning so much about temperament and personality types, my own and my kids, and learning to understand that each difficult power struggle is an opportunity to TEACH your kids about how they can respond or react to their feelings and to learn about themselves. Since I've started reading this book, I have noticed a significant change in my reaction to them when my kids have a melt down, which is hard to prevent after a long day at school, or my reaction when they make a mess. Instead of yelling I try to express my self and TEACH them. I think this book should be read by every parent, because I know I never learned about temperament when I was growing up, and I have a doctorate. I will tell my husband to read it and also my parents, since they interact with my kids as well. If it's hard to listen to your kids, because they test you all the time (which it was for me), this gives you a new perspective and gives you a purpose in which to approach each power struggle. Enjoy!!!
Precarious Life: The Power of Mourning and Violence
Average customer rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars
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Precarious Life: The Power of Mourning and Violence
Judith Butler
Manufacturer: Verso
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ASIN: 1844675440

Book Description

"A book that shines with the splendor of engaged thought."—The Brooklyn Rail

Judith Butler is one of America's most daring and vibrant thinkers. In this profound appraisal of post-September 11th America, now with a new foreword, Judith Butler considers the conditions of heightened fear and aggression that followed the attack on the Twin Towers, and the US government's decision to attack Afghanistan and Iraq. She critiques this use of violence as a response to loss and grief, and argues that the vulnerability the West now feels offers a chance to imagine a world without violence, a world where the interdependency of peoples and nations becomes the basis for a global political community.

Through five impassioned and personal essays, Butler responds to the current US policies to wage perpetual war, and calls for a deeper understanding of how mourning and violence might instead inspire solidarity and a quest for global justice.

Customer Reviews:

4 out of 5 stars Provocative book.......2007-01-19

I read this book yesterday and just ate it up. It's not the usual esoteric examination by Butler. (Not that anything is wrong with that and I've read her other work, as well).

That said, the book is written for a lay audience and I think that this book needed to be published, since the responses of feminists to or after Sept 11th have been far and few. (Aftershock is a great book to read about Sept 11th from a feminist point of view).

I can't pinpoint what my favourite section of the book was, however, I enjoyed it all. It was refreshing to see a political theorist write about something "real" that is taking place today that many are discussing or living through.

This is a wonderful addition to her writing repertoire. I do hope to see her write more for a lay audience, since hopefully they will get their curiosity piqued and read more Butler.

2 out of 5 stars Another Other.......2004-12-13

Judith Butler is out of her depth in her discussions of Israel,
and (the new) anti-semitism.Readers searching for understanding of post-9/11 politics will encounter lopsided arguments here.

5 out of 5 stars Excellent social commentary.......2004-06-28

Judith Butler is a multi-talented scholar who can write for both specialized and general audiences (which is why many, I believe, envy her). This book is quite accessible and rightly so; it is concerned with the contemporary predicaments we are currently in at this point in history. An extremely important book, Butler's "Precarious Life" has much to offer.

4 out of 5 stars The only Judith Butler book.......2004-05-30

I thought Precarious Life was great. Her previous work always sounded like a dreary parody of "postmodern criticism" to me, and I couldn't be bothered trying to slog through any of it. She's obviously going for a wider audience with this new one. It's working.

2 out of 5 stars Nothing new.......2004-05-22

I had much anticipation of Butler's _Precarious Lives_ considering her position as one of the foremost cultural and literary theorists. However, I was highly disappointed that the arguments she makes in the text are no greater than those of most academics, including those of grad students. I'd wait for the paperback edition and buy it used as it is somewhat useful for citations. Other than that, the argument is really over-stated these days and seems like much less than what one could or "should" expect from Butler.
Positive Time-Out: And Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the Classroom
Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
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Positive Time-Out: And Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the Classroom
Jane Nelsen
Manufacturer: Prima Publishing
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ASIN: 0761521755
Release Date: 1999-10-27

Book Description

Discover the Power of Positive Time-Out
Time-out is one of the most popular disciplinary techniques used in homes and schools today. But instead of being the positive, motivating, experience it should be for children, it is often punitive, counterproductive, and damaging to their gentle psyches.
In this book, bestselling parenting author Jane Nelsen shows you how to make time-out a positive learning experience for children. Inside, you'll discover how positive time-out can teach children the art of self-discipline and instill such invaluable qualities as self-confidence and problem-solving skills. You'll also learn how to:
·Make time-out an encouraging experience
·Develop an attitude and action plan to avoid power struggles with children
·Empower children by involving them in the behavior changing process
·Understand the mistaken goals of negative behavior
"Gives parents and teachers the encouragement and tools they need to help children handle their own behavior."— Sheryl Hausinger, M.D., Texas Children's Pediatric Associates and mother of three
"Offers more than 50 ways that parents can set limits while still encouraging their kids. It should be in every doctor's waiting room."— Jody McVittie, M.D., family physician

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars The first time to use Amazon.......2007-07-15

Fast delivery
Same as New book
it is really a good online buying experience

But the delivery charge is a quite expensive!

5 out of 5 stars The best secret in the Positive Discipline Series.......2006-06-04

The Positive Discipline series is all about non-punitive, respectful discipline (discipline=teaching). Treating your children with kindness and firmness at the same time is the key.

This book talks about the need for a cooling off period when emotions run high (on either side) before the problem-solving session can begin. This Positive Time-Out is a choice made by the child to be most effective. The child helps to choose it in advance, when there's no conflict. Jane Nelsen stresses the point that children do better when they feel better.

The parent can take one too whenever he/she needs it. When both sides have calmed down, there's a focus on solutions, not blame.

This book also gives 14 attitude tools (for those who find it hard to shift from punishment to non-punitive attitudes) and 41 (yes, 41!) action tools you can use to guide your child. It's gentle, effective discipline in my book!

What I think is important in this book is also the need for children to develop a "can do" attitude. Jane Nelsen talks about the Significant Seven Perceptions and Skills children need to thrive in the world. If every parent would help their children achieve these social and life skills, children would be more confident, cooperative and well-adjusted as adults.

A handy, great book brimming with wonderful ideas!

5 out of 5 stars Tons of Help for Parents and Kids.......2005-10-29

This book had many tools that help you with parenting! Many books offer extreme ideas or only ideas the help "fix the kids". This book gives many ideas with recognizing and working with the common difficulties of being a parent and gives many tools for helping parents and kids. I have just finished reading this book and have had two wonderful weeks with less struggles with my two kids and much more cooperation. I also learned more about my limits and when I need to take time to calm down from a situation and how to do so. I found this book very helpful and very affordable.

5 out of 5 stars Essential Reading.......2001-08-15

This is one of the best books available for people who either have children or work with them. The make sense, and they work. Why would children do better when they are punished, when adults don't? I've used these ideas with the children I work with, as young as age three, and they work. I've also taught them to parents who have taken parenting classes with me, and all have reported success with the method. It allows us as adults to avoid power struggles, set clear limits and have boundaries with our children, rather than using external control. As the author explains, external control doesn't work in the long term - kids only learn how to not get caught, or they become totally dependent on the approval of others, which makes them likely to get caught in peer pressure. Punitive time out teaches conformity and compliance. Postive time out teaches kids to think about the impact of their behaviour on others and the consequences of their choices.

5 out of 5 stars Bravo and thank you.......2000-08-04

Bravo and many thanks to Jane Nelsen for her latest book, Positive Time-Out. Since it's publication last November, nearly two hundred parents from my workshops have tried this fabulous approach with their children. The response and outcome has been more than favorable. Parents have shared that they no longer experience the power struggles and frustration that had accompanied their previous attempts with time-outs. Initally, many parents expressed hesitance in using this approach. Most said they felt it was necessary to make time-out punitive--even if they were following many of the Positive Discipline guidelines. However, I consistently hear parents say, "since we've changed our approach and stopped using time-out as a punishment, things have improved". All of Jane Nelsen's books have reframed the parenting approach from a negative to a positive and indeed it has helped many families achieve peace, cooperation, and satisfaction. As a parenting educator, I have used this model exclusively for nearly twenty years and have had the experience of receiving compliments and gratitude from the thousands of families who have benefitied from it's amazing and positive outcome.
Why Are So Many Black Men in Prison?
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  • Why Are So Many Black Men In Prison? A Comprehensive Account Of How And Why The Prison Industry Has Become A Predatory Entity In
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Why Are So Many Black Men in Prison?
Demico Boothe
Manufacturer: Xlibris Corporation
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ASIN: 1425713971

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5 out of 5 stars (RAW Rating: 4.5) - What is happening to black men?.......2007-08-04

Demico Boothe has explored the reasons so many black men are indeed in prison in, WHY ARE SO MANY BLACK MEN IN PRISON? He begins with his own story of a shaky upbringing and his subsequent dabbling in drug dealing. He was caught with a few grams of crack cocaine but because it was the dreaded crack, he was given 10 years in prison. When he left prison after serving his time, he was actually railroaded back into prison by a crooked justice system. He delves deeply into our justice system and the motives behind all the new prisons that are being built. He gives succinct and reasonable views of exactly what is happening now in the United States and how the past has played a role in the present. He uses persuasive statistics regarding the number of black men in prison as compared to the number of white men who are incarcerated.

Demico Boothe has done an excellent job of researching his subject and it is a plus, if unfortunate for him, that he has actually experienced first hand what he's talking about. I knew I was hearing the real story rather than just statistics from an intellectual who had no real idea of what the prison system is really like. I would have liked for Boothe to search a little deeper into the Haiti, Aristide and USA question, maybe even reading Randall Robinson's take on the situation, and then he might see it a bit differently. Otherwise, it is a good book and one every one in America should read. We indeed, have a crisis going on.

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5 out of 5 stars Why Are So Many Black Men In Prison? A Comprehensive Account Of How And Why The Prison Industry Has Become A Predatory Entity In.......2007-06-09

The book was very interesting. I learned soooo much about the government and the prison industry. I did some searching independantly to check on the things reported in the book and they are very true. Great Read!! Buy the book.

4 out of 5 stars A Must Read.......2007-05-25

Mr. Demico's book is a must-read for anyone concerned about young African American men. Although I did not agree with every conclusion he reached, Demico's main premises are convincing. As a white woman who teaches mainly students of color, I am always impressed, and often in awe, of those young men who reach college with so much going against them. Demico's books lays bare not only the horrible inequalities of our society, but also the racist attitudes of our political system - - Democrats, Republicans, and most everyone in between.

5 out of 5 stars Why are so many Black Men in Prison?.......2007-05-13

I is a well put together book. He really goes into a lot of detail of how our society is really set up.

3 out of 5 stars Why are so many blacks in prison?.......2007-05-12

I found this book very interesting. As a white devil myself, I had no idea that I was responsible for forcing blacks into committing crimes and then subsequently clogging up the whole "Prison Industrial Complex"(tm). I will try to stop causing this, as I am sure it is creating a LOT of trouble for everyone! Sorry!

It is probably also my fault that young black men dressed in XXXXL clothes overtly threaten me and my family members routinely. Can anyone tell me what I should do to make this not happen?

I imagine it's also my fault that black on white violent crime is WAY higher than white on black violent crime, even though blacks constitute about 12.5% of the population, and whites are about 70%. But since it is impossible for a black to commit a hate crime according to our criminal justice system (since blacks are not under any circumstances racist), statistically, there are more white on black hate crimes. Boothe notes a statistic regarding hate crimes, but he skips the one about interracial violence in general.

In sum, Boothe notes that just about everything blacks do is actually MY fault, because my skin is white. Boothe, I've got a word for you.

Introspection.
Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power and Surrender
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Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power and Surrender
Judith Viorst
Manufacturer: Free Press
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Whose life is not impacted, if not defined, by issues of control? Judith Viorst, author of bestselling Necessary Loses and the recipient of various awards for her journalism and psychological writings, cobbles an answer from a variety of sources--the works of biological and social scientists, psychoanalysts, philosophers, personal stories, and her own inimitably fresh point of view. Control--our lack of it, our desire to exercise it, our dread of it--is an omnipresent detail of humanity. Still, we cling to the belief in our freedom to get where we're going: our personal control. And what, in this age of it's in the genes, does control mean, exactly?

Citing adoption studies and twin research, Viorst asks--given all the factors that predispose individuals to certain behaviors--what can we reasonably expect to control? She scrutinizes control as it pertains to sex, marriage, parenthood, and workplace dynamics. In the engaging chapter "The Power of Sex," for example, she argues how control is drastically different for women than for men, debunking some powerful myths about male sexuality. The inquiry builds to that experience over which we possess the least amount of control: death. Viorst entreats us to regard our finitude consciously, particularly in relation to lives "heroically" prolonged in the final throes of terminal illness. She also addresses the issue of physician-assisted suicide, offering moving examples that bear witness to "the comfort of that control." Fascinating, funny, and insightful, Imperfect Control invites readers to seek the balance between power and surrender.

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In her remarkable national bestseller, Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst explored how we are shaped by the various losses we experience throughout our lives. Now, in her wise and perceptive new book, Imperfect Control, she shows us how our sense of self and all our important relationships are colored by our struggles over control: over wanting it and taking it, loving it and fearing it, and figuring out when the time has come to surrender it.

Writing with compassion, acute psychological insight, and a touch of her trademark humor, Viorst invites us to contemplate the limits and possibilities of our control. She shows us how our lives can be shaped by our actions and our choices. She reminds us, too, that we sometimes should choose to let go. And she encourages us to find our own best balance between power and surrender.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars a "must" for everyone.......2007-09-23

if you have read "necessary losses" from the same author, and also if you have'nt, this book is a must for all of us. mrs. viorst has a clear and direct style with a good sense of humor. do yourself a favor and buy now!!

5 out of 5 stars Thoughtful Viorst, Again.......2007-07-12

I've been reading Judith Viorst for years -- first reading "Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No-good Very Bad Day" to my children, a book in itself about imperfect control -- but somehow missed this one until recently.
There are many valuable sections, but the one on being a parent of adult children especially resonated with me. (I am horrified to hear the words -- unasked for -- of advice that seem to escape my mouth.) She approaches this section with her usual wry humor, and stories of her own stuggles with letting go of attempts to control her adult sons.
Whether a parent or not, there is much in this book to assist a reader in making peace with their lives, and hopefully making some better decisions about what we CAN control, while letting go of what we can't.
The chapter on death is worth the price of the book; I expect I will be re-reading it now and then. (It propelled me to update my Power of Attorney for medical decisions, since some laws have changed since last done.)

5 out of 5 stars Such a wonderful and inspiring book for us control freaks!.......2007-02-07

I read this book a few years ago and sadly lent it to a friend and saw no more of it so I'm thinking of rebuying it at Amazon. Can't give you now any specifics on the contents. Just bear in mind this: if you have perfectionist, controlling, obsessive-compulsive tendencies (and who doesn't in big cities nowadays anyway?), buy this book. You'll treasure it. You'll laugh with it. And you'll get inspired to be happier and just let go of things, for a change. You won't be disappointed.

4 out of 5 stars Great book on an important and ever present aspect of the human condition...........2007-02-03

It's very difficult to imagine Judith Viorst writing a bad book. She is an excellent writer and gears her writing toward the existential crisis' of life, development, etc. As some reviewers suggest, she backs up what she say with a fair amount of references to psychological literature, but she is certainly credible and although the book doesn't read like a dime store novel, it's also very accessible to the average adult without any psychological training.

The dance between control and surrender is very difficult for most people and comes up in couples, the workplace and other areas of life. This is the main topic of the book and describes why this is so and how to work with it toward achieving peace of mind. Much of this work has to do with reframing the human condition and daily struggles we all face in a more realistic fashion. It's about finding the balance point between control and surrender moment-to-moment.

Some of the areas of particular interest to me were the chapters on taking possession of ourselves, who controls the couple, the power of sex, permanent parenthood and in control of death. This is all practical and serious stuff and often areas where people confront considerable pain. While this book or any book doesn't provide all of the answers on these difficult life questions in terms of surrender and control, it will give you powerful insights and more flexibility for dealing with them.

4 out of 5 stars Worth a look.......2000-09-17

This book has very good summaries of psychological research on the issues of power and control. It would be a particularly helpful book for a student writing a paper in an undergraduate class. The book is not hard to read; I finished it in 2 days. I found her chapters on romantic relationships, parenting and work relationships helpful and gained insight into my own behaviour.
Politics Among Nations: The Struggle for Peace and Power
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    Politics Among Nations: The Struggle for Peace and Power
    Hans J. Morgenthau
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    China Wakes: The Struggle for the Soul of a Rising Power
    Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
    • Vibrant, informative look at China
    • Great book
    • interesting, deeply flawed
    • A good intro to China, but a bit sensationalistic in 10 years retrospect.
    • Eye opening book, despite being published 10 years ago
    China Wakes: The Struggle for the Soul of a Rising Power
    Nicholas D. Kristof , and Sheryl Wudunn
    Manufacturer: Vintage
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    ASIN: 0679763937
    Release Date: 1995-08-01

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    The definitive book on China's uneasy transformation into an economic and political superpower by two Pulitzer Prize-winning New York Times reporters. An insightful and thought-provoking analysis of daily life in China, China Wakes is an exemplary work of reportage. 16 pages of photos.

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    4 out of 5 stars Vibrant, informative look at China.......2007-08-09

    Authors Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl Wudunn present an interesting look at the world's most populous nation. Readers learn much about the fascinating "Middle Kingdom," its ageless culture and its vibrant people. This book was published in 1994, by which time Deng Xiaoping's market reforms had brought rapid growth and a significantly higher standard of living. But as the authors show, China has its share of abuses, suffering and corruption, and it remains a police state that clamped down in Tiananmen Square. Arguably the world's most advanced nation prior to 1500, China shrank from a lack of trade and contact with the outside world, but as the authors show it's now emerging with undeniable potency. I read this book after returning from a 1996 visit and found it completely on-target.

    At this writing over a decade later, China's rapid growth continues, the nation now has internet, Hong Kong and millions of international tourists. Also, mopeds are replacing many bicycles (adding to pollution), and more Chinese now travel and even live abroad - including some that live in my building. Overall this is a valuable if slightly dated look at a fascinating land and its people.

    5 out of 5 stars Great book.......2007-05-24

    As a chinese who grown up in the late mao era, experienced the 89 movement in person, I have never seen a book (or article) on china that is so true to the reality and have done so well in presenting and dissecting the complexity of the transforming China.

    Great book, except now is the time for a second one as the country has morphed so fast some chapters can be collected into history writings.

    4 out of 5 stars interesting, deeply flawed.......2007-05-07

    This book is a fascinating case study of liberal journalists' setting themselves up as arbiters of morals, and their lack of patriotism. They boast at the beginning that they `went native' (their words) - talking Chinese at home, listening to Chinese music, trying to feel patriotic for China (yes, they say this in exactly those words). Their perspective on everything they report is: is it good for the Chinese people. Thus there is excellent reporting on human rights abuses, murder of females, soft prostitution and kidnapping of women. Issues such as corruption are covered but with a lot of apologetics.
    In contrast to China Inc.(which I highly recommend), there is no reporting on the Chinese economic boom in the context of its impact on the rest of the world. There is little interest in China's lawless methods that are the base of their outstanding ability outcompete other nations - by stealing foreigners products, subsidizing Chinese industries and blocking other nations' imports, targeting specific industries to destroy in competitor nations, flaunting of their own legal safeguards for public safety and the environment etc. Nor is there any interest in the terrible effect that China's predatory economic practices are having on other developing nations (Mexico is a prime example) and on US economic future. No, our New York Times reporters are entirely focused on whether the boom is good for Chinese people. The author's reporting is very limited by their personal values and goals for China.
    a. I did not find the book as outdated as some of my fellow reviewers who seem to think that a few more years of an economic bubble has created a new world with new rules. The authors do predict the fall of the latest emperor (communist party), based on the history of china - that corrupt regimes lose `the mandate of heaven' by their inevitable bad rule - but warn that such rot can take centuries (sic) before the fall. However, the authors acknowledge that the new factor is an economic boom despite corruption, so all predictions may be off.
    b. In some ways they are full of idealist values, in other ways, they are moral midgets. The incident that drove me crazy was Kristoff's self-congratulatory boasting about his principled concern for his informants balanced by his journalistic mandate to report important news. His example was printing an article on slave labor products being sold although doing so risked the re-arrest and persecution of his informant and his entire family (and even though Kristoff admitted he was able to corroborate the information and didn't actually have to use or name this informant). He tells us in contrast when his moral scruples prevented him from printing a story. This is unbelievable: when a corrupt general offered Kristoff classified info on how China is selling Pakistan missiles that are capable of delivering nuclear warheads (an issue that the US was pursuing at the time and China denying) Kristoff proudly and sanctimoniously reports that he turned the guy down, thinking of the danger to the general's family if he were caught!!!!!! Kristoff also refused to give the general the home phone number of anyone in the US embassy, which the general begged him for. Apparently the sanctimonious Kristoff does not believe his work as a journalist includes publishing information on China's major role in nuclear proliferation in the Islamic world. He didn't seem to even notice that nuclear missiles in Islamic hands is a more potentially serious a threat to innocents as China's slave labor.
    Similarly, the authors compare China's military adventurism to Germany before World War I, ancient Sparta and ancient Assyria - and then lecture the reader that we should accept China's imperialist foreign policy because it is normal in world history. I don't know why the authors are not just telling the facts and letting the read use their own moral and political values draw conclusions. Instead we are given the weird assessment that boils down to `grin and bear it.'
    Here is another example of the authors setting themselves up as moral arbiters, which they are not very good at. Kristoff goes to great lengths to track down the man who betrayed the key organizers of Tianamen Square to the police. Kristoff tells us he was motivated by anger at this person. When he finally interviews him, he learns the man was neither tortured nor terrified with threats by the police. He betrayed his friends so he wouldn't be arrested himself, with the rationalization that he didn't think they'd be punished. Kristoff buys this weak rationalizing and "forgives" the man! Kristoff reveals himself as a moral midget in this story. He doesn't have the humility to realize that he does not have standing to forgive this traitor nor does he seem to understand that evil usually presents itself in this banal and hypocritical form. In any case, Kristoff has turned this tale into one of his own moral quest with the resolution being Kristoff the hero granting forgiveness. Where is the journalistic professionalism in all this?
    As in so many other arenas, post-Watergate journalists seem to be caught up in tales starring themselves as moral authorities and whistle-blowers, and forgetting their much more important mandate to report `all the news that's fits to print.'

    4 out of 5 stars A good intro to China, but a bit sensationalistic in 10 years retrospect........2006-06-05

    Written by two New York Times reporters, "China Wakes" provides a very penetrating view into Chinese culture, but at the same time, adopts a very selective and sensationalistic tone that in the end tends to exaggerate both the problems and the pluses of today's China.

    By the time I read this, in 2006, the book was already over a decade old, and given how fast and drastically China has been changing over the past several decades, it's easy to dismiss this book as already irrelevant, and indeed, many of the topics it discusses are already dated. However, I still enjoyed reading China Wakes because it was an interesting exercise in comparing the authors' predictions with the results, more than 10 years later.

    My personal verdict? I think as reporters for a world renowned newspaper, Kristoff and WuDunn had both the vigor to find fascinating stories and the writing skill to really capture the emotions and issues evolved, but at the same time, I think the unique position as reporters detracted from their credibility in making predictions for China's future. Exactly because they were reporters, they met the richest of the rich, the most corrupt of the corrupt, the poorest of the poor, and the most persecuted of the persucted. This self selecting, though admitted (albeit in the final chapter) by the authors, indeed does present a rather skewered, extremely bipolar image of China: in fact, the running theme of the book is reconciling the dual images of China as a vibrant economic miracle and China as a brutal and repressive "thugocracy." Unfortunately, because of this, it seems as most of their sensationalistic predictions, and the confidence in which they foresee the coming "collapse of the Communist dynasty," are misguided. Despite Deng Xiaoping's passing, despite Jiang Zemin's transfer of power to Hu Jintao, despite everything, nothing has changed; not the repressive government, not the economic boom. The reporter duo seemed to have missed their mark.

    However, I enthusiastically give China Wakes a 4 out of 5 because the predictive element of this book is the only thing about it I elect to criticize. As I have mentioned, their skill as writers and journalist have lead them to capture and describe some of the most poignant, emotional, suggestive, and entertaining aspects of modern Chinese culture, and their book is organized in a succint factor that will help any newcomer to China break down Chinese affairs into digestable topics. All in all, this book provides an excellent window into seeing what China is and has to offer.

    5 out of 5 stars Eye opening book, despite being published 10 years ago.......2006-01-12

    This book was published in 1994, when both writers--a married couple--were working for the New York Times out of their Beijing offices. The book does a great job of highlighting the awful record of human rights in China and is an overall outstanding work of reportage.

    Among the topics discussed are China's human rights record, corruption, Tianamen, the booming economy, andthe fate of the communist party among others. This book is incredibly eye-opening and i recomend it not only for the China enthusiast, but for anyone who is a fan of good writing in general.

    This book provides two outstanding perspectives. One, of Nicholas Kristof, an American, the view of a foreign journalist trying to explore and describe a country. And of Sheryl Wudunn, a Chinese-American, who is not only an outstanding reporter in everyway that Kristof is, but also has the unique insight of being of Chinese descent. This often allows her to gather information that Kristof (although they are married and share information) would not have been able to gather simply because of being recognized as a foreigner.

    This book also does a wonderful job of showing 2 Chinas. the first, the China portreyed to the world by the Communist Party; and the other the China found in the poorest villages in china, telling the story that is often hidden from ordinary view.

    A Great Read!

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