Step Wars: Overcoming the Perils and Making Peace in Adult Stepfamilies
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  • The ONLY Adult Stepfamily Book You'll EVER Need!
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Step Wars: Overcoming the Perils and Making Peace in Adult Stepfamilies
Grace Gabe , and Jean Lipman-Blumen
Manufacturer: St. Martin's Press
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Book Description

More and more people over age sixty-five are remarrying each year, and few families are prepared for the avalanche of feelings that comes when adult children learn that a parent is getting remarried. Psychiatrist Grace Gabe and award winning author Jean Lipman-Blumen provide a practical guide with advice and understanding for every family facing this increasingly common, complex situation. Using case studies from a variety of perspectives, chapters address concerns frequently faced, including:* Who Should Inherit My Property? Managing Financial Conflict Between the Generations* Health and Illness: Thank Heaven the Caretaker Is On Duty*The Grandchildren: Innocent Pawns (or Occasional Bridges) in Stepfamily ConflictsWritten for both the couple getting married as well as their adult children, Step Wars is the only book in the market that focuses on the blending of adult families.

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5 out of 5 stars The ONLY Adult Stepfamily Book You'll EVER Need!.......2004-04-23

Finally! A book that emerges amidst the sea of stepfamily guides, offering direction through the waters of ADULT stepfamilies. Step Wars assists your travel through the life of an adult stepfamily beginning with the conception of the relationship, and covering the plethora of complications, which lead up to the inheritance at its bereavement.

Straying from the theoretical pathway that too many authors follow, Grace Gabe and Jean Lipman-Blumen intertwine their theories and advice among the examples from real individuals as they experience adult stepfamilies. As you read through the various interviews throughout the book, you'll inevitably stumble upon a scenario that hits close to home.

Step Wars is more than just a book about adult stepfamilies; it is a handbook that EVERY stepparent and stepchild should not live without. As you find yourself confronted with any difficult crossroad, you'll undoubtedly find the answer you need within the covers of this book.

5 out of 5 stars Step Wars is "must" reading.......2004-04-11

This is a lovely book and reads well and offers important help. Step Wars can help happy second marriages stay that way! It will help to anticipate, understand and negotiate the pitfalls of dealing with adult step children. although not advertised as such, this book offers sound advice about how parents in general should talk about finances with their grown children. I predict a wide and grateful audience.

5 out of 5 stars Outstanding Book.......2004-04-10

This is an outstanding book. It tackles the delicate issues surrounding the many varieties of adult step families with wisdom and wit. A sense of profound and seasoned realism underlies the authors' approach and they address the most difficult questions ( including money and sex) with gripping and often painful experiences from real life. There are no easy answers but this book is truly a guide to realistic accommodations. It is enlivened by intelligence, a sense of humor, and is vastly above the level of most self help books. I couldn't put it down.
Making War and Building Peace: United Nations Peace Operations
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    Making War and Building Peace: United Nations Peace Operations
    Michael W. Doyle , and Nicholas Sambanis
    Manufacturer: Princeton University Press
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    Making War and Building Peace examines how well United Nations peacekeeping missions work after civil war. Statistically analyzing all civil wars since 1945, the book compares peace processes that had UN involvement to those that didn't. Michael Doyle and Nicholas Sambanis argue that each mission must be designed to fit the conflict, with the right authority and adequate resources. UN missions can be effective by supporting new actors committed to the peace, building governing institutions, and monitoring and policing implementation of peace settlements. But the UN is not good at intervening in ongoing wars. If the conflict is controlled by spoilers or if the parties are not ready to make peace, the UN cannot play an effective enforcement role. It can, however, offer its technical expertise in multidimensional peacekeeping operations that follow enforcement missions undertaken by states or regional organizations such as NATO. Finding that UN missions are most effective in the first few years after the end of war, and that economic development is the best way to decrease the risk of new fighting in the long run, the authors also argue that the UN's role in launching development projects after civil war should be expanded.

    The Making of the Arab-Israeli Conflict, 1947-1951
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    • An Honest Accounting of the Palestinian's Impoverishment
    The Making of the Arab-Israeli Conflict, 1947-1951
    Ilan Pappe
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    Arabs and Jews describe the first Arab-Israeli war of 1948 in completely different ways. Among Arabs, and especially Palestinians, the events of that year are known as the "nakba" - the catastrophe, the trauma, the disaster. For Jews, and in particular for Israelis, their victory in the war of 1948 is a veritable miracle in which, against tremendous odds and through heroic military effort, the Jewish community succeeded in thwarting attempts by the Arab states to destroy it.This book integrates new archival material with the findings of recent scholarship to present the reader with a comprehensive and general history of the origins and consequences of the 1948 war. The author shows, in sharp contrast to the recollections and myths of both sides, that the military events of 1948 were not decisive. The victory of the Zionist organization and the fate of the Palestinians was determined by politicians on both sides - in the discussions and decisions of the United Nations in 1947-8 and in the Arab League - long before a shot had been fired. The author argues that Israel's failure to take advantage of the genuine opportunity for peace with the Arabs at the UN-sponsored Lausanne Conference in 1949 resulted in the prolonged and tragic conflict between Israel and the Arab states still very much alive today.

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    5 out of 5 stars An Honest Accounting of the Palestinian's Impoverishment.......2003-03-06

    Ilan Pappe is one of the "new historians", a group of Israeli historians who are determined to accurately account for how Israel came to be. It must take courage if you are a Jewish historian and a professor at the University of Haifa, Israel, to give an unvarnished account of how the Jews took the land that comprises Israel. In 1900, the Palestinians owned all 10,000 sq. miles that made up Palestine (now known as Israel, West Bank, and Gaza) - the Palestinians had a well-developed society with villages, civil administration, olive groves, literature, etc... it had been a Muslim society for 1,300 years. But by 2000, the Israelis owned 8,000 sq. miles and occupied the rest. How did this happen? Did the Israelis purchase the land or did they simply take it, driving the Palestinians off their land into refugee camps, poverty, and desperation? Ilan Pappe tells us. It is interesting to me how determined the Israelis are to change the history of Israel and how so few know the real story. It is doubly interesting to see how furious they get when one of their own departs the party line and tells how it really happened. This book is calm and careful with its facts; it is well researched and thoroughly referenced. It will surprise you... the story of Israel is different to what you probably now think. Israelis do not want you to read this book.
    Nam Vet : Making Peace with Your Past
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    • Excellent book
    • Destined to become a classic
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    • A profound, earnest and helpful book
    • Denial, Acceptance, then Understanding
    Nam Vet : Making Peace with Your Past
    Chuck Dean
    Manufacturer: ACW Press
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    Although the Vietnam War officially ended in 1975, it still rages in the lives of thousands of veterans and their families. This book not only tells why so many Vietnam veterans suffer from flashbacks, depression, fits of rage, nightmares, emotional numbing, and broken relationships, but it offers solid answers and gives hope. It reveals the way to peace on the subject of post-traumatic stress.

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    5 out of 5 stars Excellent book.......2007-02-02

    This is a great book to enable soldiers to come to terms with the effects of PTSD. It is the best book around on the subject.

    5 out of 5 stars Destined to become a classic.......2006-05-16

    This is one of the finest books written for Vietnam veterans and their families, and I've read many. As a former wife of a Vietnam vet, I know too well the emotional devastation that was visited on those of us who were ill prepared for the return of our loved ones, suffering from psychic war wounds.
    This book spells out what PTSD is, in clear, understandable language. How I wish I'd had this book years ago, but I am eternally grateful for Chuck Dean's courage and insight into this subject. He is helping so many of us find a way to put our trauma in perspective, and find meaning in our experience. Thank you, Chuck, for writing this book!!

    5 out of 5 stars A must-read.......2005-06-24

    I am a social worker with the Dept of Veterans Affairs and work closely with many Vietnam vets. This book put their experience in perspective for me. My father is also a Vietnam Vet and I have urged him to read this book. I have read many books on treating PTSD and about the Vietnam War, but this, by far, is the finest book I own regarding both of those topics.

    5 out of 5 stars A profound, earnest and helpful book .......2005-04-12

    Since 1975, nearly three times as many Vietnam veterans have committed suicide than were killed in the war, the divorce rate among Vietnam veterans is above 90 percent, and between 40 and 60 percent of Vietnam combatants have persistent problems related to the war. What is the cause of these terrible statistics, and how can Vietnam veterans cope with flashbacks, depression, fits of rage and worse? Written by a Vietnam veteran, and now in a newly revised and expanded edition, Nam Vet: Making Peace with Your Past is a self-help guide that helps survivors identify the origins of self-destructive behavior with roots in the war, and make lasting peace with the past. Chapters address how to deal with recurring nightmares, survival guilt, PTSD, the dangers of "self-medication" and much more. A profound, earnest and helpful book grounded in realistic appraisal of lasting personal problems relating to the war, strongly recommended for the families of veterans as well as veterans themselves.

    5 out of 5 stars Denial, Acceptance, then Understanding.......2002-05-21

    My wife told me for years that I had problems. It wasn't until I read Chuck's book that I realized how right she was. It is only after we have accepted the fact of PTSD in our lives that we can begin to deal with it. Without this little book I would probably still be in denial. Every vet needs to read this book. I have given a number away and everyone who has read it has benefited greatly. Give a copy to a friend, but get one and read it for yourself first. It will help anyone who reads it, especially family members who have been mystified by the change that took place in their vet.
    Making War to Keep Peace
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    • Keeping Peace Where There Is None
    • Making War to Keep Peace
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    Making War to Keep Peace
    Jeane J. Kirkpatrick
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    ASIN: 006119543X
    Release Date: 2007-04-24

    Book Description

    In her first book in more than fifteen years, Jeane J. Kirkpatrick–Ronald Reagan's ambassador to the United Nations, and a legend in international relations–offers a bold and revisionist survey of two decades of American foreign policy.

    Since the end of the Cold War, Kirkpatrick argues, America's relationship with the U.N. has fractured, marred by mutual distrust, competing agendas, and continuing uncertainty over US involvement in conflicts among rogue nations overseas. In Making War to Keep Peace, Kirkpatrick offers a tightly observed chronicle of the result: a period that has found the United States called upon to use force around the world–to mixed and often challenging results. Tracing the course of diplomatic initiatives and armed conflict in Iraq, Somalia, Haiti, Bosnia, and Kosovo, she illuminates the shift from the first Bush Administration's ambitious vision of a New World Order to the overambitious nation–building efforts of the Clinton Administration in Somalia and Haiti. Kirkpatrick offers a strong critique of Clinton's foreign policy, arguing that his administration went beyond Bush's interest in building international consensus and turned it into a risky reliance on the United Nations. But she also questions when, how, and why the United States should avail itself of military solutions in the wake of the 9/11 attacks and the war in Iraq.

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    5 out of 5 stars Keeping Peace Where There Is None.......2007-10-01

    We Americans have assumed that most of the world's peoples shared our goals and values, especially our need to be free. We've thought they had the same yearnings, concerns and ideals. September 11, however, should have taught us that what we believed were universal truths simply are not. "There are people committed to, and indeed driven by, goals and values that run violently counter to our own," writes Jean Kirkpatrick.

    It is too bad for America that it isn't Ambassador Kirkpatrick running for President. She would have been a great one. Her clear thinking, moral values and ethics and her vast experience on the world political stage would have served her -- and us -- well. Fortunately we have the next best thing: Books that give us insight into her mind. "Right Versus Might," "The Reagan Phenomenon," "Political Woman," "Dismantling the Parties," "Leader and Vanguard" and now "Making War to Keep Peace," are a few of the titles that give us that insight.

    In "Making War to Keep Peace" Kirkpatrick chronicles the period from the First Gulf War to the beginning of the current war in Iraq. She points out that the current war is simply an extension of the first -- finishing what we started, as it were. Therefore the war is sanctioned and legal under UN resolution 687, which contains the terms of the cease-fire, terms which Hussein violated repeatedly over a period of years.

    "The legal authority to use force to address Iraq's material breaches was and remains clear, and is a matter of record," she writes. "Moreover, the United States and the United Kingdom had the strength of evidence that more attacks were impending if they did not take action." Part of that evidence (in addition to international intelligence reports from a variety of sources) included Hussein's chemical warfare against his own people as well as attacks on American planes flying UN missions over Iraq for the past decade.

    In spite of what those eager for political power in the US would have us believe, President Bush WAS justified in going to war in Iraq and it is in the best interest of America and Americans that he (and we) prosecute that war to a victorious end.

    To those who hold President Clinton up as an example of one who kept the peace she points out that on many occasions he sent our troops into war without the approval of Congress. In Somalia, Haiti, Bosnia and Kosovo the Clinton administration failed miserably and embarrassingly.

    Although Ms. Kirkpatrick believes in the United Nations, the picture she presents of its recent leadership and actions does not convince me that Americans should continue to support that body. The power building antics of Boutros-Ghali and Kofi Annan have strained the credibility of the organization and cast it too often and too favorably in opposition to America's best interests. American troops have historically borne most of the military effort in the UN's "peacekeeping" efforts.

    To Kofi Annan's statement that we should give our enemies a chance to join in improving world order so they would lose the urge to smash it, Kirkpatrick responds that he failed to explain how "one negotiates with groups whose intent is to smash the world and who cannot be dissuaded by invitations to enfranchisement. Islamic fundamentalism is an ideology of expansionist tyranny, propelled by and unrelenting will to dominate other nations, cultures and religions." She stopped short of mentioning that those fundamentalists are sworn to kill all infidels -- infidels being everyone who isn't an Islamist fundamentalist.

    Pointing out that the protection of the rights stipulated in our Declaration of Independence and our Constitution are the heart of our national identity. As a nation we continue to struggle to ensure that those rights are enjoyed by everyone here. "Of course," she writes, "it is reasonable that those of us who enjoy the benefits of freedom are motivated to remember the millions who do not...Yet it is a different matter entirely to commit military resources to keep peace in such areas, where often no peace can be kept, or to build nations in our own image before they are ready for our freedoms -- or even want them."

    The lesson we should have learned from the Reagan era, she writes, is that "historic conflicts between enemies can be won on moral force, without firing a single bullet or missile; that cultural, market, political and perhaps religious forces can be far more transformative in areas of the world where chaos and violence reign; and that America can contribute to the building of nations by any and all those means -- while preserving our military and reserving our sovereign right to wage war to maintain true peace."

    4 out of 5 stars Making War to Keep Peace.......2007-07-03

    A wonderful read from the practical, principled perspective of a true patriot. This book should be required reading for all who seek the office of chief executive of the United States. Jeane Kirpatrick understood full well the stakes of committing a nation to war when necessary to preserve the compelling goal of global peace.

    5 out of 5 stars Keen observer of the history she helped write .......2007-06-14

    Like Reagan, Kirkpatrick was a Democrat who did not leave the party as much as it left her. This book is really way too short given the amount of sweeping historical events that she lived through and even helped shape, but given the fact that the book devotes so little space to the current wars declared by the terrorists, I suspect that her 80 years were taking their toll, especially since she was so meticulous in providing support for her ideas as well as her going into great detail about the major issues she covered in the early chapters.
    But the most important part of this book for me was she is someone who writes about the UN where she served as US Ambassador, and subsequent years, and shows it to really be beyond redemption as it has become such a horribly ineffective and wasteful swamp as well as counterproductive to the ideals of its founders.
    Even in areas where she does not render her own opinion, she leaves the reader with a listing of facts which are so often neglected by those who want to rewrite history to their own liking.
    It is unfortunate that she waited so long to write this book as it probably could have been twice as long and still be difficult to put down as this one is if she had lived longer.
    Thank you, Madam Ambassador for all of your contributions in a life well-lived.

    5 out of 5 stars brilliant.......2007-06-08

    Biographical information about Jeane Kirkpatrick is contained in the Editorial Review. She died of heart failure at age 80, just months before this book went to print. Ms. Kirkpatrick had a true and clear mind right to the end.

    In this work I expected a "realpolitik" analysis of the power struggles, strategic alliances, competition for resources of the modern global era and how these related to the use of force in certain circumstances. These matters are kept in the background as Ms. Kirkpatrick uses her keen intellect to analyze, and in some instances "expose" that most important of modern international institutions, the United Nations.

    She describes the relevance of the U.N. Charter and resolutions as they come into conflict (and occasional concert) with United States' foreign policy doctrines, NATO, and the European Union since the collapse of the Russian empire. Six modern clashes that led to violence are analyzed: The Persian Gulf War, Somalia, Haiti, The Balkan Wars, Kosovo, and in one chapter, Afghanistan and Iraq.

    Kirkpatrick's exposition is too complex to condense in this review, but she presents the clearest explanation of the forces at work in the Balkan Wars I've read. The inability of the U.N. to prevent the genocidal Milosevic from slaughtering thousands of innocents in the greatest European horror since the Holocaust is scrutinized and exposed. She also makes a solid case that, during their tenures, United Nations Secretary Generals Boutros-Ghali and Kofi Annan did their utmost to centralize and increase the power of their offices beyond the scope of the original Charter's intention.

    Perhaps because her time was running out, Jeane Kirkpatrick was not able to fully engage herself in the current discussion about the Middle East. The book jacket and other advertisements state that Kirkpatrick had "grave reservations" about the war in Iraq. This is sensationalistic exaggeration. She only used this expression one time. In fact she goes to great length to build a legal brief based on the U.N. Charter, resolutions, and the U.S. Constitution to prove that President Bush's decision to go to war with Iraq was absolutely legitimate. She concludes: "Thus, whatever other debates may persists about the war, the contention that it was "illegal" is itself illegitimate."

    This book is a brilliant elaboration of the machinations of the modern United Nations, as well as a compendium of modern international conflict.

    3 out of 5 stars Where have all the leaders gone?.......2007-05-28

    Lee hits the nail on the head!!
    This is a fast reading book and one worth holding on to review again.
    Still Making Love, Not War
    Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    • Where have all the flowerchildren gone?
    Still Making Love, Not War
    Steve Toth
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    This is the poetry of a real lifelong love story. Born in the jingle-jangle morning of psychedlic hopes and dreams, these are the poems of that love as it moved through passionate strom clouds, bright afternoons and now into the ocean's evening mist. It is love as veiwed through the eyse of Steve Toth one of the founders of the Actualists movement at the University of Iowa in the late 1960s. Moving from Internet back to his paper roots, Steve made love then and continues to be a maker of love today.

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    5 out of 5 stars Where have all the flowerchildren gone?.......2006-11-18

    This book gives an athentic answer how love the blossomed in sheer idealism wears for a lifetime. This is a true love story of two hippie poet making it in the world together and coming out 40 year later with their love and ideals intact. These are genuine love poems for an aging boomer generation who still beleives.
    Kings of Peace, Pawns of War: the untold story of peace-making
    Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
    • "Kings of Peace, Pawns of War" -Clever, amusing and stimulating
    Kings of Peace, Pawns of War: the untold story of peace-making
    Harriet Martin
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    The secret world of international peace deals is exposed in Kings of Peace; Pawns of War, a ground-breaking new book that goes behind the scenes of televised handshakes to reveal what it really takes to broker peace in today's conflicts. Drawing on unparalleled access to some of the world's leading conflict mediators, Kings of Peace provides fascinating insights into the lengthy, fragile and often stormy process of transforming war into peace.
    Lakhdar Brahimi, former Algerian Foreign Minister, brokered a deal in Afghanistan, before going on to help - albeit reluctantly - the Americans appoint a government in Iraq; Kenyan General Lazaro Sumbeiywo successfully talked the two sides in South Sudan - Africa's longest running war - into making peace; Peruvian diplomat, Alvaro de Soto, spent five years trying to resolve the Cyprus conflict, only to see his efforts fail at the final hurdle; Briton Martin Griffiths secured the first peace deal in Indonesia's troubled province of Aceh; and the Norwegians Erik Solheim and Vidar Helgesen managed to midwife the ongoing peace process in Sri Lanka. These are extraordinary individuals whose tireless efforts and personal conviction have succeeded in persuading hostile groups to stop fighting often after many others have abandoned peace efforts as a lost cause.
    A powerful and important new book, Kings of Peace; Pawns of War shines an intriguing light on a profoundly secretive profession, in which a mediator will meet the American President one day and the world's most wanted terrorist the next, all in the name of brokering a peace deal. Above all, it explores the ethical tightrope that the mediators themselves inevitably walk, between being kings of peace and pawns of war.

    "Few professions are more needed today -- and less understood -- than the job of an international conflict mediator. Harriet Martin's vivid story-telling helps us get inside the minds and hearts of six master mediators so we can learn what they do, why they do it, how they fail, and how they succeed. A wonderful read - I recommend it highly!" -William Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes and author of Third Side.

    "A fascinating read…the inside story of some of the world's most intractable conflicts, Harriet Martin has secured access to some of the world's most impressive diplomats and she tells their stories with flair." -Owen Bennett-Jones, BBC Newshour presenter and author of Pakistan: Eye of the Storm

    "In this highly readable book, Harriet Martin has shed a bright light on the personalities and tactics of modern conflict mediators -- individuals who are rarely heralded, and almost never studied, and yet whose decisions affect the lives of millions. Martin's tales from the front will change the way we see the role of foreigners in conflict. The lessons she draws - if heeded - could dramatically improve the peace-makers' odds." -Samantha Power, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of A Problem from Hell: America and the Age of Genocide.

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    5 out of 5 stars "Kings of Peace, Pawns of War" -Clever, amusing and stimulating.......2006-11-27

    With "Kings of Peace, Pawns of War", Harriet Martin has excelled at the often difficult task of giving a human face to the peace-making mechanism of international politics. In fact, her book is very clear to reveal that "the mechanism" of peace-making is entirely human, made up of men and women, with all the human traits that entails -doubts, fears, insecurities, stubborness and, occasionally, the highest possible principles humanity can achieve. Indeed, "Kings of Peace" is a very clever portrayal of the interactions between these human features in conflict situations, and of the hard road peace mediators go through to achieve an agreement between warring parties.

    The focus of Martin's book is on six mediators. In each chapter, she analyses the style, the modus operandi and the personality of one of them, through a portrayal of their work in one peace negotiation. Lakhdar Brahimi in Iraq and Afghanistan, Alvaro de Soto in Cyprus, Martin Griffiths in Aceh, Vidar Helgesen and Erik Solheim in Sri Lanka, Lazaro Sumbeiywo in Sudan. Through a very close analysis of the work of each of them in these conflicts, Martin manages not only to shed light on the work of the international peace-mediator (one of the more needed and less understood professions in today's world, according to William Ury), but also of the scenario of the conflicts they worked in. And their characteristics and approach to the negotiation vary a great deal.

    Firstly, we have Lakhdar Brahimi, special advisor to the United Nations Secretary General. A former politician and diplomat of his native Algeria, accustumed to dealing with heads of state and big figures, Brahimi's style is the "power broker", relying heavily on the power relations between the parties and managing them in a very skilled and clever manner. Given his long record of negotiation and his mastery of the trade, Martin dons him "the grandfather of UN peace mediation" and assesses the role he had in post-2003 Iraq and Afghanistan, his relationship with the United States ruling structure and how the US administration could have dealt better with the creation of a new Iraq government.

    Secondly, Alvaro de Soto. This former Peruvian diplomat, a sophisticated, traveled and extremely intelligent man was the Secretary General's Special Adviser for Cyprus from 1999 to 2004. A firm believer in the UN legal system and in the need to base the process on international law, de Soto relies not only on his authority but also on intellectual tricks to move the discussions forward, earning him the title "chess master". His dealings with the difficult figures of the Cyprus conflict are some of the most instigating passages of the book.

    Thirdly, Martin Griffith's chapter is a move away from the official UN peace makers. Griffiths is an independent peace mediator. Working for the Geneva-based Center for Humanitarian Dialogue (CHD), he is not tied to any intergovernmental institutions but rather represents a new breed of independent mediators (certainly a reflex of the growth of the importance of NGOs in today's world). This is a double-edged sword; while on the one hand he lacks the clout and the weight to impose conditions on the negotiating parties, his independence grants him a dynamism and a free-hand that the somewhat constricted UN officials simply cannot afford. This chapter fuels hope that organizations such as the CHD will grow in number and strength, contributing to the construction of Peace.


    Fourthly, the Norwegians Helgesen and Solheim. While often the mediators have a central role in the peace process, this duo places the process on the spotlight, and insists on being referred to as "facilitators", rather than mediators. Harriet Martin wonders, however, if this does not mean that they are the truest, purest mediators of all, as their constant and diligent work behind the scenes (often hampered by Sri Lankan politics) is really what, sotto voce, drives the whole thing forward. Their chapter, covering with their personal dynamics, their determination for the process and the difficult relationship witth the Sri Lankan authorities is perhaps the most intimate and engaging in the book.

    Lastly, Sumbeiywo's work as Kenia's Special Envoy to the Inter-Governmental Authority on Development (IGAD) in mediating the peace-process in South Sudan 2004-05. Once more, the web of power between big governments, rebels and the superpower come into play, and are faced with the tower of moral authority that Sumbeiywo, a retired Kenyan Lt. General, personifies. His artful manner to put the interests of the Sudanese people above everything, often clashing with big-power interests, creates one of the best quotes in the book: "My interest in peace in the Sudan. Their interest is who has the upper hand when they get peace in the Sudan".

    This book raises many stimulating matters, and it would be impossible to cover them all here, given the the way in which Martin, a former journalist and war correspondent, dives deeply into the subject. The complex psychology of mediation, for one, often has the centre stage. In Brahimi's words, "of course you shoot for the moon, but don't say you are going to get to the moon today if it takes you several steps". The interaction between peace-mediation and high politics, both at local and global level, the difference between UN mediators, State mediators and independent mediators... all these points construct the web of power the mediator is faced with every day, and support the very thin high wire they must walk to do their essential job. They have to deal with the two sides, while running the risk of being used themselves for political manipulation (hence the book's title).

    The discussion of which should come first, peace or justice, is also raised, and the master negotiators Martin portrays sometimes diverge in this matter. I is possible to imagine, for instance, that Brahimi and Griffiths would be more pragmatic and say that the first thing is to get the peace agreement signed, whereas somebody like de Soto, heavily based on UN law and principles, might argue for legal justice prior to all. Here the unbelievable pressure these professionals have to work under plays an important role. The pressure to get the agreement is best exemplified by a situation faced by Griffiths in Aceh: having to choose between including human rights on paper, in a clause in the agreement, or the human rights of the people of Aceh, who would face a big military crackdown should the controversial clause be included.

    Martin still included some very amusing anecdotes, such as the moment Sumbeiywo threatening to shoot the American representative on the negotiating table. Or the time Brahimi did not get up from his chair all through the night, in a symbol of pressure to make the delegations work and conclude the agreement, keeping everybody up. These funny stories contribute to increase the human face of peace-mediation.

    In short, "Kings of Peace, Pawns of War" is extremely well recommended. The author ably deals with very complex and overlapping topics, drawing herself a psychological profile not only of these six men, but of the intricate world of peace mediation. As William Ury put it, it is crucial that we learn more about the work of peace mediators, it is today more needed than ever. And we often do not credit the amazing minds behind it all.
    A Bitter Peace: Washington, Hanoi, and the Making of the Paris Agreement
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      A Bitter Peace: Washington, Hanoi, and the Making of the Paris Agreement
      Pierre Asselin
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      Demonstrating the centrality of diplomacy in the Vietnam War, Pierre Asselin traces the secret negotiations that led up to the Paris Agreement of 1973, which ended America's involvement but failed to bring peace in Vietnam. Because the two sides signed the agreement under duress, he argues, the peace it promised was doomed to unravel.

      By January of 1973, the continuing military stalemate and mounting difficulties on the domestic front forced both Washington and Hanoi to conclude that signing a vague and largely unworkable peace agreement was the most expedient way to achieve their most pressing objectives. For Washington, those objectives included the release of American prisoners, military withdrawal without formal capitulation, and preservation of American credibility in the Cold War. Hanoi, on the other hand, sought to secure the removal of American forces, protect the socialist revolution in the North, and improve the prospects for reunification with the South. Using newly available archival sources from Vietnam, the United States, and Canada, Asselin reconstructs the secret negotiations, highlighting the creative roles of Hanoi, the National Liberation Front, and Saigon in constructing the final settlement.
      Avoiding Losses/Taking Risks: Prospect Theory and International Conflict
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        Burying the Past: Making Peace and Doing Justice After Civil Conflict
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        Burying the Past: Making Peace and Doing Justice After Civil Conflict

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        5 out of 5 stars A highly recommended compendium of essays.......2001-08-12

        Burying The Past: Making Peace And Dong Justice After Civil Conflict is a highly recommended compendium of essays drawn together by Nigel Biggar (Professor of Theology at the University of Leeds) and focusing the problems of establishing democracy after a transition from brutal, oppressive regimes -- and often violent civil, prolonged conflict. The problem is to reconcile the populace so that reprisals and revenge does not undermine or subvert the newly establishing democratic principles, procedures, and compromises. Very highly recommended reading for students of political science and international studies, here are to be found outstanding contributions by Donald Shriver, Jean Bethke Elshtain, Tuomas Forsberg, Martha Minow, Hugo van der Merwe, Marie Smyth, Brandon Hamber, Alexandra Barahona de Brito, Rachel Seider, Charles Villa-Vicencio, Stef Vandeginste, Terence McCaughey, and Nigel Biggar.

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