I'm OK--You're OK

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Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I'm Not OK -- You're OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational Adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate emotional reactions of our Child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our Parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives.

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excellent.......2007-09-09

I've already read this book in my own language.
It is perfect for anybody with any ages
That's why I chose it as a gift for my dear cousin in English

I'm OK--You're OK is OK.......2007-08-31

Learning about the critical parent and the nurturing parent were helpful concepts. The rest of the book was just OK.

I;m ok-You're Ok.......2007-01-09

This book was ship fast and in great shape, it very interesting
how as a child one is train to think from every word or action our
parents do.

Thank you for your prompt service in shipping your orders.

Being OK.......2006-11-07

Thomas Harris' book is on my top five list of books dealing with how to live a full and complete life. In an age when self-esteem is a major problem for so many people Harris has given a useful, easily understood, and applied solution. In this book he talks of the four options for our life stance, and then develops in a very convincing way why I'm OK-You're OK is the most reasonable, rational choice. In my counseling practice spanning 35 years this was the book I most frequently recommended.

Bob Pavelsky, Ph.D.

As Advertised.......2006-06-26

The seller presented the title accurately and honestly. The book arrived in a timely manner, in tact.

I'm OK, You're My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works

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Dr. Atkins Gets It
Relationships Can Improve!
Got Parents? Read This!
I'm One of Those Parents, and I want to be OK too!
How adults can learn to relate better with their parent

I'm OK, You're My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works
Dale Atkins
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In a recent study, half of all Americans rated their relationship with at least one parent as either 'poor' or 'terrible,' and more than a third felt this way about both parents. As life expectancy continues to rise and the parent-child relationship extends further into adulthood, this problem is becoming more prevalent than ever. Now, psychologist Dale Atkins presents a step-by-step plan for adults trying to come to terms with parents who are only human-before it is too late. In I'm OK, You're My Parents, Atkins applies the same intelligent, no-nonsense approach that's made her a frequent guest on top-rated TV shows. She urges a restructuring of the relationships between adults and their aging parents and gives practical, specific advice on how to exorcise the demons of anger and resentment, untangle financial arrangements that cause stress and feelings of powerlessness, set limits on your parents' demands for time and attention, turn a spouse or friends into a powerful resource, overcome your own resistance to change, and discover the redemptive power of humor. This book draws on Atkins's twenty-five years of experience as a relationship expert to present a comprehensive guide to repairing difficult relationships, gaining control, and building a life that you and your parents can live with for years to come.

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Dr. Atkins Gets It.......2005-09-24

I recently finished Dr. Dale Atkin's 'Sanity Savers' and found it so helpful I had to see what else she had written. First of all I found that Dr. Atkins is a prolific writer, but after happening upon "I'm OK You're My Parents: How To Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works," I am convinced she is not only a talented professional but a wise woman who understands that true interpersonal intimacy is not only good for one's mental health but physical heath as well. I, once again as after reading "Sanity Savers," came away with a deep appreciation of the depth of her knowledge about how familial relations actually work including all the love, ambivalence, joy, sorrow, anger and remorse that are contained within them. I lent it to a friend who called me to say the book opened her eyes in the same way it did mine. Thank you Dr. Atkins from both of us.

Relationships Can Improve!.......2004-07-07

Despite your adult age, are your parents still driving you crazy? Dr. Atkins' can help! With engaging wit, she shares wisdom mined from years of experience helping people improve their relationships. Dr. Atkins helps us see and claim the power we have to make changes in ourselves that inevitably alter our relationships with parents. Her discussion of family dynamics comes to life through the many stories she shares. Dr. Atkins guides the reader through specific practices that will improve not only one's ability to deal with parents, but other significant relationships as well. If you are serious about improving your relationship with your parents, or with your adult children, this is the book to read.

Got Parents? Read This!.......2004-07-07

For anyone with parents -- living or passed on -- this book is a must read. It will make you laugh, it will make you cry but
most of all .. it will make understand that you are not alone.
Your issues - good and bad - are not solely yours. Everyone
has parental issues and Dr. Atkins shows us how to live and love
our way through them! Not riddled with psychological mumbo jumbo Dr. Atkins speaks to the heart of the matter. From being
a child with parents to an adult parenting your parents, I'm OK guides you through survival! Beautifully written and the type of book that you refer back to often throughout your daily life.

I'm One of Those Parents, and I want to be OK too!.......2004-07-07

I predict this book will become one of the classic self-help best sellers, and it should! Dr. Atkins writes from years of expertise in counseling young (and not-so-young) adults who are looking for ways to improve their relationships with their parents. Not "bad, awful, terrible" parents, but mothers and/or fathers who sometimes intrude, impose, ignore, invade, and/or may be insensitive to (or unaware of!) some of the needs, wishes, interests, and/or opinions of their adult children. The book is filled with a wide range of parent - adult child issues that will ring many familiar bells for probably most of us. Dr. Atkins' approach is articulate, optimistic, and practical, and is fun to read. I was sure she was writing about my own parents in several chapters, and I wish I had had access to these ideas years ago, instead of just rolling my eyes, silently mumbling and grumbling, planning visits carefully, censoring how much of my own life I shared with them. And they were actually pretty darn good parents - we just couldn't communicate about a lot of "stuff" from their generation to mine. After reading Dr. Atkins's book, I ordered a copy for my adult daughter! She's reading it now. Gulp!

How adults can learn to relate better with their parent.......2004-04-27

In the wake of a multitude of books about how our parents have created all of our emotional problems comes this book that points out the fact that blaming someone is not a solution to problems. The focus of the book is to take that next step and find ways that you can move through guilt and anger and create a working relationship with your parents. To this end the book contains lots of examples from Dr. Atkins' actual patient files. It also includes exercises to work through, questionnaires to help you understand yourself and your relationship with your parents, and various lessons to illustrate the principles involved.

The first part of the book focuses on you. It includes an examination of ways to take control of your life so your past doesn't control your present, how to deal with guilt and parents who use it to control you, and anger.

The next part changes focus to your parents. How did they grow up? What did they go through as they were growing up? What was their life like? The focus is on developing empathy so you can use it to develop forgiveness. One of the most important points of the chapter is realizing that your fantasy parent doesn't exist. Not only do they not exist but also those fantasy perfect parents that your friends seemed to have were not perfect either. Two of the coping techniques covered in this chapter include creating reasonable expectations for yourself and your parents and creating appropriate boundaries.

The last section discusses the most common problems when dealing with parents. For example, some of the problems covered include the bait and switch technique, manipulating you with a health crisis, becoming easily offended when you don't share personal details of your life, putting you in the middle of their problems, or using money to manipulate you.

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With more than 7 million copies sold, and a spot on the New York Times Bestseller list, this pioneering self-help guide transformed the lives of countless readers.

"Harris has stripped away the technical language of psychoanalysis and presents with lucid logic a way to self-understanding and change."--The Los Angeles Times

Are you okay? That's probably the most important question anyone will ever answer, and Dr. Thomas Harris's groundbreaking bestseller helped millions respond in the affirmative. Using Transactional Analysis, which confronts the individual with the fact that he or she is responsible for what happens in the future, Dr. Harris explained how to distinguish the three active elements that make up everyone's personality (Parent, Adult, and Child), as well as the four life positions underlying people's actions. Best of all, his theories are presented in wonderfully easy-to-understand language, and there's practical advice on how to change harmful behavior. Anyone can lead a happier, more effective life and better understand friends and family.

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Self-Help Book extraordinaire.......2007-07-19

I'm O.K., You're O.K.

I'm O.K., You're O.K. is an outstanding book for people with deep-seated mental problems. I'd recommend it for people such as S. Hauge who has an apparent Oedipus complex aka Scott-E-Dog. You really wonder about a person who adopts an alias with dog in it. Maybe he's trying to emulate Snoop-Dog. Poor, poor Scott-E-Dog. This self-help book could help if he could get someone to read it to him. You see Scott-E-Dog dropped out of school and has a difficult time reading without moving his lips and other body parts.

Gunner July, 2007

Not received.......2007-01-10

I tried to buy this book. You told me it was out of stock
and out of print. You said you would refund. That's it.

A return to roots.......2006-01-29

As good as it was when first published...even more meaningful after 30 years. As valid now as it was then.

Very stimulating and enlightening book!.......2000-12-14

I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand his or her behaviour in situations.

The "A-Ha" feeling you get when you start reading it comes when you understand why so-and-so makes you feel small or angry and why certain situations make you start playing some game.

It discusses the basic terminologies and vocabulary needed and then goes on to discuss in different social contexts and developmental contexts the application of Transaction Analysis.

This is not just a vague psychology book like Freud. It is extremely practical and insightful.

We're OK.......2000-04-11

An outstanding self-help book discussing human behavior based on transactional analysis, in an easy to understand language while still technical.

I'm OK -- You're Not: The Message We're Sending Unbelievers And Why We Should Stop

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BIG Disappointment
Please don't buy this!!!
Heretical! Shore flat out tells you to disobey Christ's command to witness!
Shore teaches the exact opposite of scripture
Penned with gentle charm, Christian humor, love, and understanding

I'm OK -- You're Not: The Message We're Sending Unbelievers And Why We Should Stop
John Shore
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Everybody feels as if they should be evangelizing someone, somewhere. In fact, most of us probably feel guilty because we're not meeting our evangelism quota for this lifetime. But sharing our faith with nonbelievers can often feel like making a sales call during dinnertime: uninvited, unacceptable, and highly unlikely to get any results. Author John Shore proposes a radical solution: Maybe it's time to take the focus off evangelism. As he builds his case with sound theology, humorous insights, and "me too" moments, John suggests that we move beyond the Great Commission and start living the Great Commandment, because the only thing better than telling someone about God's love is to let them actually experience it.

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BIG Disappointment.......2007-08-23

Mr. Shore is probably a great guy, but Theologian he's not.

His misuse of the Scriptures makes me wonder if the publisher, Navpress, even read the book.

A Buddhist highly recommended the book to me. ...that should have been my first warning sign.

No disrespect, but don't waste your time and money unless you're going to put it in the "cults" section of your library.

Please don't buy this!!! .......2007-07-21

While I am sure John Shore has a desire to help fellow Christians, this book does nothing of the sort. Instead, it is telling Christians not to obey one of Jesus' commands. Jesus' command in Matt. 28:16-20 is to make disciples. The way we are to do this is go into the world (that means witnessing), baptize them when they make a public declaration of faith, and teach them the truth in Scripture. John mistakenly thinks that this command conflicts with the greatest commands to love God and love your neighbor. The two are not contrary to each other. Rahter, they are in harmony. If we truly love our neighbor, we will warn them of the Day of Judgment to come where people will stand before God and have to give an account of their life. If they are found in their sins, they will spend eternity in hell. Warning people of this horrible fate and telling them about of the Gospel is loving them. Likewise, if we love God we will witness since this is a command (just look at the Greek in Matt. 28:18). Jesus said in John 14:15, "If you love me, you will obey my commandments". So if we love God and want to fulfill the greatest commandment, which is to love God will all our very being, we will obey all his commands. This includes the tough ones like evangelizing. We don't get to pick and choose. Please don't let this book tickle your ears. Please don't use this book as a way out of sharing your faith. Pray to God to give you courage and be bold and speak to the lost about their eternal fate.

God bless,
Pastor Peter O'Neill

Heretical! Shore flat out tells you to disobey Christ's command to witness!.......2007-07-21

Mr. Shore says that the Greatest Commandment (Love God and love people) is incompatible with the Great "Commission" (tell people about Christ)? How idiotic. These are two things God has commanded us to do... love others and tell others about Christ. In fact, the most loving thing we can possibly do for others is tell them about Christ.

In summary his book's real message isn't about loving God and loving people... it's about self-love. His message is, "Love yourself enough to avoid potentially uncomfortable situations that may occur during witnessing."

Poor Mr. Shore, I wonder how he could possibly actually be a Christian with this theology. It makes me heartsick that the Navigators published this garbage.

In third world countries thousands of babies are born with neonatal conjunctivitis, a serious infection of the eye that causes blindness. In 1995 an eye drop was created by UCLA that can kill the infectious bacteria and prevent sight loss. Imagine you are walking into a hut where a mother is clutching her infant. The child's eyes are red and puffy with crusted swollen lids. In your hand you have a bottle of this miraculous drug -- one drop in each eye, and this child will not go blind. However, before you can put the drops in those eyes, you're going to have to talk to the mother about the fact that something is wrong with her baby. You're going to have to say, in essence, "you're not OK."

But, imagine that you are so frightened that this may cause her to feel uncomfortable that you elect not to talk to her at all. You decide that if you're just friendly to her for a couple of months, perhaps she will ask you about the drops.

How horrific! Only the most UN-loving, self-centered, cringing, coward would elect to not speak because they were afraid of causing a little temporary discomfort!

If you really care about that woman and her poor, suffering child, you will run up to her, tell her something is wrong with her baby, and then tell her what you hold in your hand. And the same is true for evangelism. Sin is the disease, and Christ's precious blood is the miraculous cure. Sure, the person you talk to might feel initially uncomfortable... but if you really care about where they're going to spend eternity... if you really don't want to see them go to Hell... you will love that person enough to wade through that discomfort so that they get the cure.

If this book has any popularity, it can only be with those who do not believe Hell exists, and with those who are looking for an excuse not to share their faith. It is complete heresy... and utterly nonsensical.

Shore teaches the exact opposite of scripture.......2007-07-21

I noticed something John Shore's theology. His theology is not grounded in the Bible, but rather, in a postmodern, emergent church (cult)world where people are more concerned about hurting other's feelings rather than speaking the truth in love. Where it is more important for a person to enter hell than to hurt their feelings. Gee, I guess Jesus really botched it up with the rich, young ruler and the Pharisees.

The teaching in this book is a total cop-out from seeking and saving the lost. Shore tries desperately to stand behind the greatest commandment of "Love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself" which is the whole sum of the Law, yet he has totally missed the point. Warning others with a totally loving and a reasoning heart, that Hell is real and that those who have not been saved by the grace of God will be punished there, but that there some awesome good news (Gospel)is not a contradiction to God's command to love. In fact it is not loving at all when John Shore attests that he would rather not talk to a stranger about these eternal matters but rather avoid them for fear of rejection or making them mad or hurting their feelings. People's eternal souls are at stake here! We, as Christians, are those, whom have been saved from death ourselves and are now in the lifeboat (that is Christ) on our way back to the "Titanic" wading through the frozen corpses and yelling "Is anyone there?" And acting out of pure love to save those who are perishing, pulling them in from the fire.

John Shore say's that the greatest commandment to "love thy neighbor" is greater than the "great commission." Shore says that a commandment is greater than a commission and that the two are incompatible. What kind of scholarly research is this? Anyone, with the Holy Spirit indwelling,who correctly interprets the Bible knows this is a horrible way to interpret, or rather pathetic if I may be blunt. Matt. 28 and Mark 16:15 do not use the word "Commission." Jesus said "Go..." and then he tells us how to go. This is a command, not a suggestion. I believe Shore is relying on the "headers" that people have put into the Bible to help readers define sections of the Bible and he's clearly not reading the context of the passage. It seems as if he is looking at the header words "The Great Commission" in his Bible and thinking that it is scripture. In essence John Shore is telling Christians that Jesus is really contradicting himself and that one part of Jesus command is lesser than the other. This is complete and utter heresy that is being taught here, and I am very disturbed that so many people have flocked to this book. It's like the prayer of Jabez again, another heretical teaching. Everything that Jesus says weaves together in a common thread, it can and never does contradict with itself. The Word of God is God breathed, it is totally unified. Every essence of it is pure and undefiled and definitely NOT in contradiction to each other.

If you don't want to evangelize as Shore has stated that you shouldn't, then this book is for you, but keep in mind that you have violated God's command to love - which is something that Shore has emphatically stated that you shouldn't, so you're in a conundrum - because you would rather see people enter hell, than warn, reason, and share the Gospel to a stranger in love for fear that they may be upset at you. Shore totally missed what Jesus said "Unless you repent, then you will perish" And the implication there is, "in hell." We must reach the lost, in the fullness of love and compassion and obedience to Christ's command to "Go preach the Gospel..." with the unsaved so they may not perish. Why is John saying we shouldn't do this?

This book gets 4-5 stars, why? Because people want to get their ears tickled and Shore's book provides people with an easy out, after all who really wants to evangelize? (sarcasm).

Penned with gentle charm, Christian humor, love, and understanding.......2007-07-09

Humorist and Christian writer John Shore presents I'm OK - You're Not: The Message We're Sending Nonbelievers and Why We Should Stop, a frank discussion of a crucial flaw in modern evangelical movements - that they have come to resemble sales calls made during dinnertime, and as such are just as unlikely to achieve results. Emphasizing the concept that letter others experience God's love is far more potent than simply telling them about it, I'm OK - You're Not emphasizes the importance of listening to the Great Commandment above all. The Great Commandment referred to is as spoken by Jesus Christ and recorded in the Bible: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these." Penned with gentle charm, Christian humor, love, and understanding, I'm OK - You're Not deserves to be required reading for any Christian considering embarking upon an evangelical mission or career.

Yo Estoy Bien, Tu Estas Bien/I'm Ok, You're Ok

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Yo Estoy Bien, Tu Estas Bien/I'm Ok, You're Ok
Thomas Anthony Harris
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I'm OK-You're OK
Thomas A. Harris
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I'm OK -- You're OK: A Practical Guide to Transactional Analysis

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I'm OK -- You're OK: A Practical Guide to Transactional Analysis
Thomas A. Harris
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I'm Ok- You're Ok
M.D. Thomas A. Harris
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I'm Ok- You're Ok
Thomas Harris
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It's probably the most important question you'll ever have to answer. Because right now -- whether you're aware of it or not -- all the relationships with the most important people in your life are strongly influenced by a combination of how you feel about yourself (OK or not OK) and what you think of them (again, OK or not OK). I'M OK YOU'RE OK is the product of Dr. Harris's pioneering efforts in the field of Transactional Analysis--efforts that have already revolutionized therapy procedures throughout the world. After helping countless numbers of people help themselves establish mature, healthy relationships, he has translated startling theories into easily-understood language and adopted key ingredients of successful behavior change into practical advice. The result is a remarkable book that has already helped millions of hardcover readers lead more effective lives.

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This groundbreaking new cookbook dispels the myths about diabetes and "forbidden foods" by showing people how they can incorporate into their meal plan many food items they assume they must avoid. The American Diabetes Association Forbidden Foods Cookbook includes more than 150 recipes which feature fried chicken, cheesecake, fettucine alfredo, devil's food cake, and many others.

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helpful.......2007-05-07

Very helpful tool for diabetics and non-diabetics. Being a grad student in nutritional science, I used the chocolate chip cookie recipe in here for a presentation on healthy baking for diabetics. Surprisingly tasty. The introduction has some excellent tips on how to cut back on fat and sugar while keeping your blood glu levels on target. Well written!

forbidden foods.......2007-03-08

Some of The recipies in this book have super expensive ingredients in them. Some of the recipies are very good. I wish that the book had more of the things that real people can afford. Overall this is a nice book for diabetic cooking.

A "must" for the diabetic cookbook shelf........2001-03-03

Forbidden Foods: Diabetic Cooking presents 150 recipes for diabetics and other health conscious eaters. Many traditional comfort foods are transformed to great tasting, flavorful, lower fat versions that are healthful and delicious. Full counts of dietary exchanges, calories, fat and fiber are included with each recipe, as well as prep and cooking times and serving sizes. The introduction contains suggestions for ways to reduce fat, sugar and salt and how to increase flavor. Recipe categories include beverages, snacks, sauces and dressings, faux fried, favorites, pizza and pasta, bread and muffins, and multiple delicious desserts, pies, cookies, puddings and cakes.

It is hard to believe that you can make Eggplant Parmigiana, Banana Cream Pie, Cheesecake, Oven Fried Chicken, French Fries, Buttermilk Biscuits, and salad with Thousand Island dressing and still stay on a balanced reducing or maintainence diet, but you can according to Forbidden Foods. Of course the desserts are fabulous, but it is certainly comforting to know you can have Spaghetti and Meat Balls or Raisin Scones, or Enchilada Casserole in your daily menu. A cookbook like this encourages everyone to find a way to prepare their favorite foods that is within acceptable healthful eating limits.

Being myself a diabetic, I highly recommend Forbidden Foods.

Nancy Lorraine, Reviewer

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